Habits-Just what are they, why good habits are hard to make & bad habits even harder to break. What is a habit? Why is it so hard to make a new habit and break a bad one? When setting a goal to create a new habit, It does always seem to be like an uphill struggle. Why are healthy habits so hard to make, and most people fail? It is now February and my local gym is starting to empty out, unlike the first week of ...

"The Age of Instant Gratification" I remember when I was younger if you wanted to change the channel on your TV, you had to get off your arse and manually turn the knob. Can anyone else remember that? Oh have times changed, now you have devices like Alexa, who will do all kinds of things for you and they are voice activated. Now You can be on the other side of the world and change the channel on your TV with your ...

How is your relationship with money? Whether you have a lot of it or not, it is how you perceive it that is important. Now I’ve always had a fear-based relationship with money. When I didn’t have any or little of it (which has been 90% of my life) I was always preoccupied with either running out or feeling very anxious thinking, “What if we couldn’t pay the mortgage or car loan or utilities”. “What will happen when the nest egg is ...

The attitude of gratitude Introduction How would you just like to feel good all the time? Feel self-contentment and have inner peace? Having deep gratitude can do this for you, let me explain why. Some people would spend their life savings to acquire that kind of contentment, learn new techniques, like yoga, meditation, goto an ashram, a monastery, a shrink, anywhere and do anything to improve themselves, their lives and feel better. Happiness is free We all aspire to feel happy and no matter what you think ...

There goes that darned inferiority complex again!! Irrational thoughts, default thinking, limiting belief, self-sabotage, name it what you want but we all suffer from it. Now my limiting belief is “I’m not good enough” and I have felt and thought this way all my life. I’ve played detective to find out where my limiting belief came from or how it got there. I have kind of solved the mystery, in hope, it would miraculously disappear or change, but it didn’t. What I came to discover ...

How my compassion came from being co-dependent My younger years For as long as I can remember, I have always been or felt compassion to other people. I always thought the best of people and wanted the best for people. I hated to see suffering and I hated conflict or confrontation of any kind, shape or form.  I’ve been called a wimp, a jerk, a coward, gutless, yellow belly, I’ve been bullied, told to toughen up. But none of that changed me and ...

How do you know if you are just being paranoid or if it is actually intuition? Having low self-esteem and being an alcoholic ( in recovery now), I have always been paranoid. It was always the worst case scenario. If someone looked at me I thought they were judging me. I was a mind reader and always doing other people’s thinking for them, or what I perceived they where thinking. Mostly in the negative. I couldn’t take a compliment and when someone did ...

 “I Couldn’t be a prouder Dad” “I Couldn’t be a prouder Dad” Are you a parent? I had the absolute pleasure and privilege the other day, by attending my two Sons’ Christmas pageants at school. Watching my two wee boys perform in their plays, filled me with so much pride and love for them I could have burst. Now they are only 5 and 8 years old and are still our babies, and every day I put them on the school bus, I must admit ...

Harm Reduction or Abstinence, Who is to say? I recently was involved in a mini-debate about harm reduction and abstinence, and both sides had their pros & cons, but from who’s perspective. Where I am coming from: I am an alcoholic in recovery for over 15 years and an addiction counselor for 12. Now I have worked for the past 12 Years in a 12 Step Treatment Centre, and being in recovery myself, I would lean towards the abstinence model. I am open minded though ...

"You are doing so much better than you think" Intro My Low Self Esteem For as long as I can remember, I have had low self-esteem. I don’t know where it came from and I am not that interested to find out as that will make no difference to me now. I was a timid child, was bullied at school and was an active alcoholic until I was 34. During that time, I did function, went to school, college, worked and even set up ...

"Change is Strange" The word change has so many definitions, as it is both a noun and a verb and has a vast scope. I will leave it for you to look up which definition suites, as there are many. When I think of change, the first feeling I get is a sense of mild trepidation as it goes against the norm or my comfort zone. Aren't we all just creatures of habit, I know I am. I change my clothes every ...

Hi there it's Dermot here again. As the title says, we as parents must take note. UNICEF has written a report about this subject, and an article in Secure Teen, explains this well: Reasons why parents spend less time with their kids "Spend Time Not Money" My article title covers two aspects of spending time vs money: 1. Spending time & not money in the context of raising your children. 2. Spending time & not money in the context that your children ARE your ...

I'm in a fuddle muddle Hi its Dermot again, and you might be wondering what this title is all about and does it even make sense. I will try to make sense if I can even make sense of it for myself. I am the least focused person alive, as I might start out on something and before I know it I am distracted and end up trying to multitask with disastrous results. This is in the "Offline" world and with chores ...

"If it sounds too good to be TRUE, then it probably is!"   Hi there it's Dermot here, Now you are probably wondering what this title is all about, especially as I am an Attraction Marketing Entrepreneur. A bit of a contradiction in itself but hear me out..... As human beings, we are primarily led by our emotions, especially when it comes to making purchases and investments. In fact, 80% of purchasing is an emotional not rational decision and only 20% of the latter. When ...

Artificial Intelligence - What are the implications for our future, when it achieves self-awareness? The thought of "Thinking Machines" can do one of two things for you, either excite you at the prospect of them or scare you at the implications to us humans if and when they do become "Self-Aware". Guess what, they are here, robotics has come leaps and bounds in recent years, and is being improved on a constant basis. Every Tech head company is either involved or getting ...

Trying to start a pension at 40+, on minimum wage Hi there, it's Dermot again, and if you are like me, then this article could just be of benefit to you. An Uncertain future I am now 49 and have no pension plan at all. Sometimes that frightens me as I think, how will I survive on the "state" old age pension. I don't want to be a pauper in my old age. The way things are going, when I reach 65 will there stilll be ...

"Radio Heads" Hi, there its Dermot again, now you might be saying is this another Law Of Attraction blog? or about an aging rock band. Well yes and also no, now I won't deny that the Law Of Attraction is always at work, but that is my belief. What I'm talking about here is how you can actually control your thoughts, rather than your thoughts controlling you. Intrigued, well read on... Never Resting minds Now during your waking hours, your conscious mind doesn't stop, if fact did you know ...

Internet Communities, are they the future? Hi there, its Dermot again. The past weekend I was at a workshop hosted by SFM called the Elite Influencer. It was an amazingly powerful event for everyone in attendance and the facilitator, Justin, was remarkable and he did something that you just don't see that often anymore...... What Happened? What Justin did was help create a community out of around one hundred relative strangers into one group of like-minded people who had each other's backs. Now conventional society ...

Introduction - 10 Steps to Accept yourself for Who you are. What am I on about? Hi there, it's me again and I was just listening to an audiobook by Tony Robbins the other day and suddenly I became very skeptical. The thoughts that began running through my mind where "Who are You to talk, sure you've made it, you're successful in life, you have nothing to worry about, so who are you to tell me how I am feeling and what I need ...