Culture and the people you hang around with

by Raymond Hoogesteger Self Improvement
“You become the average of the five people you hang around with.” – Robin Sharma With that being said, who are the five people around you? Do you share the similar values, thoughts, and beliefs? It was a question that was terrible for me to answer because of those people around me, weren’t friends. In fact, I didn’t even have friends, I was surrounded by my family and colleagues. Those were the people who had an influence on me. So their thoughts and ...
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Breaking the comfort zone

by Raymond Hoogesteger Business, Relationships, Self Improvement
In order to break the comfort zone, we will need to understand the comfort zone first. The comfort zone is a zone we have in our head that makes us feel safe, secure and known. It is very comfortable to be there because it makes us believe we have everything that we need. Our response to fight, freeze and flee is resting in our back of the heads and does not concern about the dangers. However, we don’t have everything that we ...
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7 Lessons on self-worth

by Raymond Hoogesteger Relationships, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
What is self-worth? The sense of value you are as a person. 1st lesson: Adding value. An important lesson I learned from Jim Rohn is that you do not get paid by the hour. You get paid by the value you add to the market. And I had a different attitude about money at that moment and that attitude reflected my bank account, which wasn’t a lot. But in a deeper sense now I understand that value isn’t just about money. You can find value ...
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A mentality to fill the emptiness inside, part 2

by Raymond Hoogesteger Relationships, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
This video has a low volume. Apparently, I'm in need of a microphone and earplugs. It will take some time for me to get those. So my advice is to turn on the volume louder than usual.  Because that I need money to pay my bills and to survive, I used to think that the amount on my bank account is what I am worth. Unfortunately for me at the moment is that I have to pay my debt. I can’t ...
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A mentality to fill the emptiness inside, part 1

by Raymond Hoogesteger Relationships, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
For some time I have felt empty inside and I did not know what it was. But I just might have found what it actually is and what I can do about it. That emptiness was always there, since I was a child, although I never realized it I acted by it as well. I was focused a lot on the material things that I have and I wanted to have so many things, which I still do. However, I ...
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What a small fever has taught me

by Raymond Hoogesteger Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
Surprisingly I actually learned something from being ill. One thing I learned is that it is a state I rather don’t want to be in. Another is that when the body feels weak, the mind get weak too. But because I believe that the body and mind connection is very strong, a weak mind might have caused the illness. I focused more on the problem and not the solution. But I can’t prove that this made me ill. It might ...
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One step forward, three steps back.

by Raymond Hoogesteger Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
For a couple of days, I haven’t been training at all because I was ill. Even worse, I’ve been lying a lot and basically didn’t move a muscle at all. All my energy was being spent on fighting an infection and therefore I did not have the energy to train. So for that reason, it is not bad. However, I do find it tough to get back into the training again. I feel like I’m behind over two weeks, while ...
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Where is the ideal image coming from?

by Raymond Hoogesteger Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
Last night before I falling asleep, this idea just came up to me and I started to write things down. From a young age, I just wanted to fit in, I did what was asked or expected of me. I didn’t really have a lot of self-confidence and neither had I any idea what I wanted to do or become. Well, I did have some ideas, but I wonder now if those were my own ideas or ideas that people expected ...
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A stressed situation

by Raymond Hoogesteger Business, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
When you see it, stress is good. Right now I’m going through some hardships. Getting a six-pack has basically nothing to do with my survivability. My finance is a whole other story, I will be challenged all the way to the end of May, which gives me about €80,- a month to buy food and that is not really a lot. There’s an enormous challenge for me to end these months. But it’s not really the result that is important for ...
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Why time is such an important factor.

by Raymond Hoogesteger Business, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
We’ve measured time in seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, seasons, years, and so on. But I think there is way more to it than just the measurement. When I was mourning my father’s passing I was completely overwhelmed by my emotions. And I had a moment where I was in a disturbance of time so to speak. The emotions I was feeling were about my past, how I lived my days growing up with my father, which were positive ...
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Vision and the monkey chatter that keeps me away from it

by Raymond Hoogesteger Gaming, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
Vision is seeing clearly what you want to achieve in the future. When I take a picture with my cell phone and I look at it, I’m already looking at the past. Vision is seeing that picture that you want in your future. In order to see what I want, I need imagination and to get there I need creativity because there are several ways to get there. A great example of vision is made in a video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOy0YgUDwDg And as I ...
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Instant gratification vs fulfillment.

by Raymond Hoogesteger Health and Fitness, Self Improvement, Food and Drink
When I intend to keep myself to my goals, there’s always a battle going on in my mind that wants instant gratification. The problem is that to reach my goals, I will need more to fulfill that. So in my journey, I already met my brain that has that battle going on. And let me start with food. When I was drinking a tea yesterday, I promised myself to have one mini chocolate bar. Unfortunately, it didn’t stay with just one, ...
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