Being Raised By A Single Mom

by Sanele Mthunzi Self Improvement, Home and Family
What were the perks of being raised by a hard working single mom? First question that comes to mind is, :-) Were there any really? What were they? The reality of it is that there were three children being raised on a single income, there were bills that went unpaid in certain months, like the start of the school year where school fees were a priority. No matter how one looked at it, it was far from being rosy! The bare necessities were taken ...
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Have You Forgiven Your Absent Father?

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Do we forgive because we have done well in life and do not necessarily need them to support us? Or is it a beautiful and understanding heart? Or do we forgive because our mothers never spoke ill of them, they allowed their children to form their own opinions of the situation? So I have been dealt the hand if an absent father! He was never there! Never had the opportunity to sit down and have a meal with him! Have never held ...
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What Do You Value?

by Sanele Mthunzi Health and Fitness, Home and Family
I was once asked the question. What do you value in your life? Is it family, friends, children, your health? Question is, What do you spend most of your time doing? That is what you value!!!I debated with myself, I pride myself in loving my family tremendously, I work so hard to provide for them, my health is important to me! Ask yourself how much time you spend with the people or things you say you value? FamilyIf you say you value your family, how ...
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Is Your Career Stagnant?

by Sanele Mthunzi Home Based Business, Self Improvement
Are you one of those people who has been working for the same company for over 5 to ten years and feel like your career has not moved much? Do you feel like you have done everything by the book, you have been through university and gotten your first job and all seemed to be doing well. This was your fist job so you gave it your all because you wanted to move up the ladder get into management position. That's where ...
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Are You Working Hard? What Is Your Reason?

by Sanele Mthunzi Self Improvement, Home and Family
What is your reason for waking up every day? What is your reason for working? What is your reason for fighting through traffic to get to work on time. Is it just to put food on the table? Type of job!You work in a construction company you are away from home for two weeks at a time, you only get to see your children twice per month, on the special friday evenings you are allowed to go home, when you walk ...
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Taking Your Eyesight For Granted?

by Sanele Mthunzi Self Improvement, Home and Family
Do you take for granted the fact that you have perfect eye sight and you can watch TV! Do you know there is someone out there who would do anything to be able to go for a drive, look at trees and  watch the sunset! Always appreciate having your eyesight one day it may be gone. Do you take for granted the fact that you can open a cupboard and take out tea and sugar and make your own tea! Yes you have grown ...
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Is A Woman's Confidence Learned Or Experience?

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Self Improvement
So we were having a debate with friends about women's confidence, is it through preparation and hard work. Before taking on a subject matter a woman will tend to do some research about it! A woman will not just "wing it" as compared to a man.Looking at businesses most of the leaders are men, CEO's, Presidents, Senior Managers in corporates majority is men! For the minority women in those positions most of them have a long history of fighting to get there.They ...
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Who Are You Scared To Fail In Front Of?

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Is it your immediate family, your extended family, your friends or your Ex??? Is it your parents? They spent so much money taking you to the best of schools? They provided you with a life which they themselves did not have, but were determined to ensure their own child had a better life than they did. They did not want you to struggle through life and school like they did. For them school fees were never paid on time, until they were chased ...
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How Do You Write Your Story?

by Sanele Mthunzi Home and Family, Kids and Teens
So school holidays are over and everyone is back at school and they discussing how their holiday was! Some children had no one to visit, they stayed at home and played in the streets with their neighbors. Some went on holiday to visit their grandparents and cousins and it was one big happy family. Some children go on holiday with their parents, every year they go on vacation. Back at school.. The teacher asks the children to write a story about how they spent their ...
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Why Do We Stay In Abusive Relationships?

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Have you ever been in an abusive relationship? Did you stay because you believed the person would change? Did you stay because you felt or thought the good in him out weights the bad? Do you think deep down he is a good guy he hasn't always been this horrible, maybe he is going through a rough patch at work and is taking it out on you!  He is educated and earns a decent living, you have built a solid life together, ...
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Why No One Can Get You Out Of An Abusive Relationship But Yourself

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Do you know anyone who is in an abusive relationship and refuses to tell anyone about it? They try to hide it from family and friends pretending all is perfect in the marriage? She worries about telling her parents it will upset them, won't tell their friends because they will laugh at them. No I cant tell my friends none of them are married they will not understand, she thinks!  On the morning after the beating, They even make excuses that no he he had ...
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The Black Sheep Of The Family

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Are you the odd one out in your family? Everyone looks the same and you are the odd one out? Your looks and character are completely different to everyone else in the family. When everyone sees red you see yellow and always dancing to your own music! Apparently you have been like that since birth! Even at school all your friends say you are different to your sister! If someone does not know you are sisters they will never assume you are even related. They ...
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Being Eternally Grateful

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Were you raised by your family, aunts and uncles including your grandmother? Where does your loyalty lie? Do you find yourself torn among all the people who raised you. Multiple relatives raising you! Many hands helping in raising youSo you were born by a single mother, she did not have enough money to raise you so her family provided various types of support to you. Pre school you lived with your grandmother as your mom was full time employed and could not afford to get ...
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Intervention In Relationships

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Have you ever been in a loving relationship, where you are very close as a couple, you are open and honest with each other it seems. You will have the disagreements as all other couples but you easily resolve your issues between the two of you.  You have been together for a long time and were friends before you became a couple. The HurdleBut then you hit a hurdle and completely disagree on an issue such as having one or two children. As a ...
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Do You Bad Mouthing The Other Parent?

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Are you in a relationship where you are co parenting with your ex? Do the children spend alternative weekends and holidays with one or the other parent. As a parent do you talk ill about your partner to your children? Fishing for information When the child comes back from visiting their Dad do you ask them details of how their weekend was and who they were with, what did they do and what did they eat? Do the children innocently give you the details ...
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The Child Is Always Innocent!

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Have you ever been in a situation where you had a huge fall out with your friend? You have been friends for a long time and live in the same neighborhood. Your children go to the same schools and holidays are one big happy family. Your children are friends and they spend a lot of time at each- others houses and play dates are their lifelihood!  Come Christmas you are always together as families, vacations are planned around the kids holidays always ...
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Do You As A Couple Argue In Front Of Your Children?

by Sanele Mthunzi Relationships, Home and Family
Did you grow up in a family where your parents had heated arguments in front of their children? Were you forced to take sides? Whose side did you take and why? How did this affect your attitude towards relationships later on in life? Do you think it did? Nature of the relationships There are those couples who have been together for over 20 years and will at any point break into a heated argument, it doesnt matter where they are or who is witnessing. ...
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Do You Respect Disabled Parking Bays?

by Sanele Mthunzi News and Society
Are you one of those people who parks in disabled parking bay because you are quickly running into the shop and won't take long? Do you use disabled parking because its after hours and no discabled person should be out at this time?  Or have you been driving around looking for parking and none available the only one you can see is the discabled parking? You then decide to use it and walk out with a fake limp?  I have seen able bodied ...
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Do you finish the diets you start?

by Sanele Mthunzi Health and Fitness
How many times do we start diets and not fisnish the course? I was cleaning my cupboard the other day and found a lot of diet teas, pills, powders and specific diets foods which I started taking and never finished. And why dont I finish them I asked myself, is it because of lack of focus and consistency or am I just not determined to lose the weight. Deep down I know I want to fit into those jeans and a white ...
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Finding answers to very personal questions!

by Sanele Mthunzi Self Improvement, Home and Family
Have you ever been through a phase in your life when you had a particular problem and did not know how to solve it? It was actually so personal you could not turn to anyone for answers? Or you consulted other people but their answers were not what you were looking for? It does happen!! Life is full of questions You probably have tons of them in your mind right now, but where do you find the answers? It is true that the ...
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