I was standing in the mirror of the locker room at the gym today, I smiled looking back at myself enjoying the visible progress I have made over the past few years after incorporating regular exercise and healthier eating habits into my lifestyle.
I laughed and said to myself "What I would give to tell my 16-year-old self not to cry about how you look because it gets way better..."
That’s when it hit me, maybe I can't tell 16-year-old Olivia that it gets better, but that doesn't mean I can't tell SOMEONE that it gets better. Growing up my mother and I did nothing but fight, every conversation was a battle, and my older sister and I were so different we were practically strangers. So needless to say I was pretty much on my own when it came to navigating life during those extremely critical "coming of age" years.
So here it goes, 4 things I wish someone told me before I turned 24. They're not very original but regardless, I'm going to pay it forward to another young woman who has no one else to ask, because like I said, they may not be original but clearly not enough people are getting this stuff out there.
1. Sex is never the answer....
It just never is, whether you're in a situation where you're feeling pushed to do things you have mixed feelings about, or you're afraid you won't be loved if you don't have sex, whatever the context... don't.... you will eventually find love that will never require you to anything thing you don't want to do.
2. Enjoy your youth even when you feel like you can't wait to grow up...
I had to grow up extremely fast for a multitude of reasons, but that being said I wish I had spent more time enjoying my "childhood" years when I had them. My advice, don't rush it. Not because of what I believe to be the bullshit statement "these are the best years of your life" because quite frankly, I believe every year should be the best year. All we can do is live in the moment, none of us have a promised tomorrow and we should try to be present and in the moment as much as we can. Life is so much more freeing that way.
3. Drink as much water as you can....
With running the risk of sounding like your mother, yes, you read that right, I wish someone had taught me about the importance of water. Well not just water, but incorporating healthy habits into my life. As a young adult you're packed with a crazy schedule and often you have little money to be spending on the latest and greatest organic nonsense so just drink as much water as you can. Its good for your skin, your overall well being and honestly, you'll get less hangovers. Try to instill as many healthy habits as possible because it's easier to get into good habits when you're younger then when you are trying to overhaul your health habits 10 years from now.
4. Don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do with your career....
As soon as you're a junior in high school, or who knows it may be earlier now considering the way society is going, you'll be funneled into all these "supposed to's" "have to's" and "what about your future's" way of thinking. Stick to your guns and do what your heart tells you to do. If that means go to college and pursue something, great, if it means to be an apprentice in a trade, great, if that means take some time off, getting some work experience and finding yourself, that's great too! If you don't know what you want to do, that's ok, completely and totally fine. Feel confident sticking to those guns because you will figure it out. I spent almost 10 years working in an industry that I woke up one day and realized made me miserable. Fortunately, I found my way, and am fortunate enough to say I quit corporate America by 25 and am pursuing my dreams with my own startup online business. I finally feel like I am living as truly me. Don't be ashamed of your passions no matter how many people passives aggressively say variations of "but can you really make any money doing that".... because yes you can!!
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Til Next Time