When it comes to decision-making, knowing how to prioritise is essential. To determine what is the most crucial task, we need to ask the focusing question. How can a busy mum prioritise tasks effectively?
My children have grown up and have left home but my responsibilities as a caregiver for my husband, the attention to my son who has Multiple Sclerosis, and the desire to become self-sufficient, are critical to me but I found that, in my efforts to attend to all things, things were getting out of control.
As a wife, I want to be a supportive helper to my husband. As a mother, I want to be attentive to my son's needs. And as for me, I have this sincere desire to live a life of purpose and meaning which in my view it is what makes a successful life.
But it has taken me a while to release this sense of guilt and a compulsion to do it all and to meet specific standards which only contributed to getting incredibly out of balance.
In my personal world, body and mind awareness and attention to my family and friends require solid counterbalancing.
So, how to prioritise tasks for busy mums?
According to Mark Twain, the secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks and then starting on the first one.
How do I know what the first one should be?
As mentioned in The One Thing book, we need to focus on a question. Why? Because answers come from questions, and the quality of any answer is directly determined by the quality of the question.
Life is a question and how we live it is our answer. Whoever dreams of an uncommon life, at some point recognises that there is no alternative but to pursue a unique path to living it.
Astonishing results come from the decisions we make and the actions we take. And the Focusing Question directs us to do what is essential to success.
To keep on track and to get the best out of the day, month, year or career, we must keep asking the Focusing Question: "What is my One Thing?" By asking this question on a continuous basis, it urges us to categorise tasks in their order of importance.
"What is my One Thing?" will guide us to discover an excellent answer for our job, our business, or any other part of our life in which we want to achieve extraordinary results.
It is our guidance when we want to give to others and our community, and how we want to be remembered. It is the vision for our life and the direction of our career or business and will keep our relationships with family, friends, and colleagues in perspective.
Personally, it took me a while to grasp the concept, but I have been applying it on a daily basis, before I go to bed, when I wake up and throughout the day, keeping me focused on my most important task.
It has also been useful in my personal life, helping me be attentive to my most critical immediate needs, and to those of the most important people in my life.
I genuinely hope that this advice from this fabulous book also helps you to keep on track with the numerous duties you, as a mum or partner, have at hand. The following quote from George Anders says it all.
"There is an art to clearing away the clutter and focusing on what matters most. It is simple, and it is transferable. It just requires the courage to take a different approach."
I am sure that you, just like me, are looking to find a counterbalance in your life. Please share what other methods you have found valuable in your life in the comments below.
To your success