Guidance and counselling are often perceived as patronizing - like a parent telling her child what to do. Just as the child often does not comply with what her parents recommend, the counselled person will have a natural resistance to turning guidance into action.
Therefore, coaching is an excellent approach in counselling situations.
The word "coach" originally means "the driver of a coach/wagon". Oxford University turned the word into slang, using it to signify an "instructor". In the United States, the word has since been used in the world of sport as an expression for "trainer".
It makes sense in the modern world. The coach focuses on promoting exactly the potential that the individual practitioner has. At the same time, the practitioner must learn to love precisely his potential - his special qualities and abilities. And yes, we all have special potential.
6 Examples of Coaching Being Better Than Counselling
1 A Coach Posts Questions and Listens So That The Client Herself Finds Her Solution
A counseling meeting that has a "coaching" style will have less focus on handing over the supervisor's knowledge to the client, and more on finding the client's motivation and special competencies in relation to solving the task, acting on the given opportunities, reaching expressed goals. You may want to argue: “But there is often a specific framework that the client must act within. Certain terms and objectives that stand firm and which the client does not have the authority to formulate on his own - let alone reformulate. ”
There will always be frameworks and conditions. Once acknowledged and accepted, you can start coaching. It is important that conditions is something that you have a conversation about agreeing to - not something to "preach". Terms are just the framework within which opportunities can play out. Once you've agreed on the terms there is a large, inspiring playground where the practitioner can be allowed to formulate his or her own goals and plans.
2 Coaching Is Motivating and Empowering
The opportunity of coaching to gain power over the situation and adapting goals according to her own wishes empowers the client - also in relation to continued motivation. The client is systematically led through phases in a process which leads to qualified action. Phases that go from ...
Exploring what it is important to find solutions for, over...
Barriers, opportunities and resources to...
The action plan and implementation.
In other words, the client gets a very clear sense of having power over her life at least when it comes to the part being counselled on.
3 Coaching Promotes a Feeling That Obstacles Have Already Been Overcome
In coaching, you work on anticipating obstacles and barriers - be it in the environment or internal, limiting beliefs. And each of these obstacles to development is being addressed so that the action plan seems to have already been resolved. The client knows exactly what to do. Sometimes you have to do special exercises in the form of visualization, so that you have almost experienced beforehand how the "problem was solved".
4 Based On An Idea That The Individual Attracts Exactly What He Wants - For Better Or Worse
Any coaching starts in one way or another by examining what it is that the client wants. Which issue to work with and what the client wants for herself. The process of executing the planned implementation becomes easier if the client can visualize - truly feel - how the world looks when the goal is reached. The client is encouraged to describe himself and his situation as if the goal has already been reached. It may seem unscientific, and it may also be (though probably not). But it works to create routines around talking to oneself, visualizing, meditating. The idea of attracting what you are thinking of is described in the book "The Secret" (watch the video), which describes the phenomenon called "The Law of Attraction". When you intensely think about things you desire and want, the universe will give it to you - whether good or bad, and whether realised or not. So the visualization of the good scenario is of course extremely important.
5 The Good Story Is Put On Center Stage - And The Bad Set In The Background
There are many stories related to any problem or challenge. Both the client's own, but also the client's interpretation of others' views on the problem. Sometimes these are predominantly problematic stories. Other stories are positive. The negative narratives can be the reason why the situation has become locked and unmanageable. Therefore, you should typically examine all the alternative stories. "Is your teacher always angry with you? Are there situations where he is not angry? What happens then?” By asking many questions about situations when the problem does not occur, one can move the negative focus and introduce a more positive focus. It is very powerful and conducive to problem solving and progress.
6 Coaching Creates Motivational Action Plans That You Can't Wait to Get Started With
The result of the above "dance steps" is action plans created by the client himself within a positive and motivating framework, created jointly with the counselling supervisor. With his questions, the coach has created a "playground" for the client's exploration of a better path. An action plan should preferably be sufficiently ambitious so that it is not routine. Something needs to be at stake, maybe some risk to be run. It helps to make the plan and the implementation sufficiently motivating and attractive.
With a coaching approach, guidance and counselling become a more power free situation. And it is important that, if you as a supervisor want to use coaching, make sure to give up power. As a supervisor, you should be curious and listening. Let the client speak. And if you absolutely feel you need to introduce a recommendation, ask for permission first - and allow the client to freely choose whether or not to use your recommendation.