Fears are just fantasy
One of my biggest fears is losing money. Not having enough money and to have or take out loans. I know I'm certainly not alone in feeling this way. However, I must admit that unfortunately fear sometimes prevents me from daring to do things that I would like to do. To handle such fears may be, to say the least, extremely difficult. It easily takes over and suddenly have an entire reality realized on the basis of a thought of what could happen.
Thus, a fantasy of something that I judged as a thought can affect me and my surroundings in a negative way. This way of thinking can limit and stop both me personally and my business. Not daring to take a chance, not finding the faith and trust in that things dissolves, becomes as it should. Not to accept that my thoughts, in this case, is not a true reality. It is amazing how creative our brain is and that it can create big unrealistic situations.
How do I manage my fear?
In this case, I am very well aware that I feel fear. A fear that I can select if I want to loose or choose to continue to create images and fantasies around - a distorted imagined reality. I have a choice.
"-You can go as far as to here but not more than that dear! Now you are going outside your own comfort zone."
This is easier said than done - to choose.
The brain says one thing and the feeling in my heart and stomach is another. What do you do then? So, it's a feeling that I need to work on to stop building fake outcomes. My brain has already decided what will happen if I run the risk of not having enough money, it has even given me emotions physically in my body to point out that "-You can go as far as to here but not more than that dear! Now you are going outside your own comfort zone."
A single thought can make a big difference
In my stomach, it turns out, I feel sick and in my heart, it hurts. Is there anyone else more than me who sometimes feel like this when a similar fear takes over? The brain lets me believe that I was not feeling well by just a single thought! Isn't that a little creepy? A single thought! Over something that yet has not actually happened - and probably will never happen. Who knows something about the future and who can influence it? I think this proves to us that our thoughts may well steer us and takes us from living in the presence.
Who knows something about the future and who can influence it? I think this proves that our thoughts may well steer us and takes us from living in the presence. Here. And. Now.
"You are what you think"
What if we instead could start to think positive thoughts.
Here's where it get "fuzzy" and what many people mean - "you are what you think!" Yes, but what if it is true?
If one thought that is negative can have such power over our body, mind, and well-being to the extent that we may feel physical nausea, pain in the heart and a sense of concern that takes over your whole body and soul. Is it then impossible that a positive thought can do the same just as well?
I recently read a post on Facebook, where they had done experiments with having rice located in a positive environment and other rice located in a negative environment. It proved that the rice that was in the negative location quicker became bad than the rice that was located in a positive environment. Pretty awesome right? I would argue that it's the same with us, humans, if we spend time with people who are positive, we will be happy and positive, if we hang out with people who are negative, well, then we become negative and depressed. Thus, I would say that we need one another, need people that lift us up when we are about to fall, help each other.
I would argue that it's the same with us, humans, if we spend time with people who are positive, we will be happy and positive, if we hang out with people who are negative, well, then we become negative and depressed. Thus, I would say that we need one another, need people that lift us up when we are about to fall, help each other.
Talking about money is taboo
I chose, in my case, to ask for help in a network that I am a part of, an entrepreneurial network, and went far beyond my own comfort zone. I asked for help, trying to solve my thoughts and fantasies with the help of others who have been where I was. No one would talk about money, it's taboo! I gave it my best shot. This was the best decision I've made.
I got extremely good feedback, help and a lot of tips because I dared to ask. Dared to go outside my own comfort zone. Dared to ask for help. I can recommend it. So, after a long post like this, I just want to share my findings. Please share your thoughts below, I am curious to hear them.
My conclusions are:
- Think positive thoughts - it affects your well-being!
- Stop to accompany your thoughts with fantasies "what if it would be like this ..."
- You become like the people you hang out with.
- Do not hold onto your fears by yourself.
- Ask for help to get perspective.
All the best,
Carina Asp | Marketing Coach
Marketing with Body, Soul & Spirit Business