Knowing how to stay positive in life appears to be an essential element which can help you better respond to the adverse effects that existence throws at you. It is clear that such unwanted situations are impossible to avoid since they can happen at any given moment, even in the midst of tragedy.
So how do you become more optimistic?
To begin with, understanding how to stay positive in undesirable circumstances is an invaluable trait in leading a good lifestyle. The next step is to learn how to be positive in a way which makes it simple for you to stay optimistic on a regular basis.
You should also remember that you are only human, so let go of any guilt you may have and think of what is ahead of you, not of what happened or could happen.
It is good to learn from adverse circumstances and to realize that you have hard times at certain moments in your life, and you desire to handle these in a better way. But know that we all have bad days, and we are all going through difficulties throughout our existence.
So what can you do about it?
Well, let’s look at some possible recommendations that may come handy when the time comes.
Focusing on the Solution
Many of us are resistant to changes in our lives. So, you have to learn to accept that you are continually going through changes in life, whether good or bad.
You should focus on the solution and not the problem. So many people concentrate on the negative of the situation they go through rather than the solution and in doing so, they have a bad day.
By focusing on the answer, you take away some of the stress and worries. You put your attention on the positive rather than the negative of the situation.
It can make a huge difference between a bad day and a good one. So try to look for the positive aspects.
Being Positive is a Choice
You are the only person who ever hears your thoughts unless you do choose to speak them or act on them. You are the captain of the vessel which is your body and mind. So your thoughts are under your control, and your mind should just be listening to you instead of stressing you.
It means that to stay positive, you need to be in control. Let’s say you are 20 dollars short on paying a utility bill. You find yourself with two choices:
- You can choose to freak out and stress about how broke you are, lowering your mood and allowing your day to be controlled by your mind and the utility bill.
- You can choose to focus on how to make the best of the position you are in. And pay with 20 dollars shorter which will just be added to your next bill or at a later time.
If you want to stay positive in life, there is a great rule called “The 5 by 5 rule” which goes like this:
“If it is not gonna matter in 5 years, do not spend more than 5 minutes being upset about it.”
Retraining Your Brain to Power Thinking
If you begin your day with negative thoughts because of a problem, it is a bad thing for your health overall. Strange as it may be, your brain usually feels like going into negative mode first.
It is an automatic reaction of human nature to dwell on the wrong things, as it was created for the survival of our species.
You need to resist this negativity and shift your focus on the positivity about your day and your life because the more you talk bad about yourself, the more that negativity will become a part of you.
You have to retrain your brain to stop going over what has been or is happening. As an alternative, you should practice the power of positive thinking, so that each time an unwelcome thought comes into your mind, you replace it with an optimistic one.
Choosing to Go with the Flow
I would agree that life sucks at times, and it is hard to stay positive all the time, but as far as I know, it is an enjoyable experience you only get to live once. Bad events will always come your way, mine, or anyone else; none of us are safe, no matter how successful, wealthy, or notorious we are.
Going against the tide means the opposition is at work. Going with the flow means options and chances. By staying positive, it means you can remain mentally stable and disposed to cross over any barrier.
You should know that this is not an ordinary disposition. Some people have ways when bad things happen, or wrong thoughts enter their mind, such as mantras, meditations, or taking a walk.
Meditating or Closing Your Eyes
When your thoughts are running all over the place, try to clear your mind by meditating by sitting quietly five to ten minutes.
To stay positive whenever something bad happens, or do not go as you planned, or when somebody frustrate you in life, I would suggest to bring all that you are doing to a halt and take a few deep breaths.
You should close your eyes for 15 seconds and repeat the words “Thank you for sharing, but this shall pass” in your mind a few times so that you may you feel better.
Be even More Grateful
Having an attitude of gratitude at any hard moment will not only keep you positive but will reset your train of thought. You should realize that it is impossible to be negative or have another thought when you are grateful.
So, if you have a bad time, take a few minutes to think about all of the great things, people, and places in your life and remind yourself that you are entirely able to rise above anything in your way.
To keep positivity in your life, practice gratitude by being even more grateful than usual because it will help you have a grateful heart and soul, even when difficult circumstances arise.
Countless people make excuses or blame when things are not going their way. Take full responsibility for what you do every day, and it will make you feel even more positive.
Tips on How to Stay Positive in Life
- Focus on the solution to stay positive.
- Devote yourself to positive pursuits during the day.
- Keep the negatives away.
- Retrain your brain to think positive.
- Do something that brings joy to your life.
- Have an attitude of gratitude.
- Surround yourself with joyful, happy people.
- Exercise by taking a walk, running or doing something that you enjoy.
- Call a friend or someone you care about and tell them how appreciative you are of their friendship.
- Walk away from energy drainers such as people, places and things that keep you from being happy.
- Eat a healthy meal.
Maintaining Your Positivity
The negative times will get less and less frequent, even if they still happen, they will not overwhelm you anymore like they used to. When something does not go your way, simply take a different route. It does not mean it is getting easier, but you may accomplish more.
Remind yourself about your goals. It will make it easier for you to get through the challenging times. The more you will think positive, the easier it will get to think and stay positive in life.
Like everything else in life, it takes practice. In any case, it is better to think about your victories than thinking about your problems.
The difference between positive and negative is nothing more than a perspective you choose to look at. No matter the situation, think and stay positive in life, and you will make a positive impact not only on yourself but the world around you also.
Sergei VanBellinghen, Founder & CEO of First-Class Lifestyle and sergeivanbellinghen.com, Success & Self-Improvement Consultant, Freedom entrepreneur & business partner of Stuart Ross, also counselor in East Europe-West relationships, a passionate Globetrotter and an avid audio booker