We all have fears. We all struggle with something that seems greater than us. But I’m gonna tell you how we can overcome it.
Working for yourself
Why is it easier to do something for others, than it is to do something for yourself?
I ask this question every time I sit to work on my personal project. It amazes me that when I am in my 8-5pm work, giving my all for someone else’s dream I don’t even question. I blindly follow what everybody else is doing.
However, when I’m doing something for me I see how difficult and sabotaging it is. How hard it is to follow my heart, my passion. And how easy it is to conform with what everyone else is doing and just follow the ‘crowd’.
My dream has always been to be free but sometimes I don’t know if that is really what I want. Because to tell you the truth, being free is hard. It might be fun when we get there. But boy, it’s hard.
It requires more of me to work on my vision, on my dream, than it requires me to do the 8-5pm job. Being an entrepreneur is a change of mindset. And the changes are huge. These changes hurt. Because we need to look inside of us, learn who we are and face our “demons”.
Every day I wake up and look myself in the mirror and ask if I am the person I’m thriving to be. You see, I bring it to the present, to the NOW. Because there is no better moment to look for an inspiration than NOW.
Building your business
Why would someone build a business? The reasons can vary a lot but basically comes down to this:
- More money
- Working on your own time
- Being the boss of yourself
- Having more money to help others
Does this sound like something you would like it too?....
Of course, it is… who doesn’t want all these things?? But in reality, the only one that keeps me up and going is the 4th reason.
I am the fifth child from a dysfunctional family. Being the fifth child, I didn’t have a lot of saying in the family decisions. In fact, I was the last one to know what was going on. But I carried a sense of responsibility for my family. I know, it sounds ridiculous when I write about it. How can I be responsible for the ones that came before me??
Unfortunately, I was and still am, constantly trying to help the ones I love. It got to a point where I gave up everything in my life and went on to help my sister resurrect her business. And I would do it all over again. But this time a little bit smarter.
I have been open for something to change my life. But I have not been looking for it. My focus was more on myself. Doing everything that I knew to be happier.
In the search for a happier life, I stumbled across a possibility of building my own business. I never thought I could think about building a business for myself. This idea was insane. After all, I had already accepted that I was born to be in the backstage. Everyone else is way better than me when it comes to talking and convincing people. I was certain that my place was behind the scenes.
So why bother trying to build a business, right?
To be very honest with you, I never thought about building a business. I didn’t even question my thoughts. What I did was follow my gut. The learning I was getting from my mentors was amazing. I was learning more about me every day. I was having a change in mindset. I was feeling happier. So I didn’t think to question anything.
But then I got to a point where my inner voice. That voice that is afraid of success, of happiness, told me I was doing everything wrong. I was an idiot. And I believed it. So I started questioning my gut, my inner wisdom. Until I understood that was my self-limiting beliefs that were stopping me, not what I was doing.
So from experience, I can tell you, don’t question your gut. Follow your heart, your intuition. It will take you to wonderful places. That little voice inside is afraid. And it is okay to be afraid. But it is not okay to let fear stop you.
How to defeat fear?
The only way to defeat fear is to face it. There is no other way to overcome your fears other than to face them.
That is what I am doing here. I am afraid of failure, of being judged, of nobody even reading this story. But I am trying. And quitting is not a choice.
Today I heard something very wise. The difference between a master and a student is that the master has failed more times. This means that failure is a part of life. Failure is the part of having success in life.
And only fail the ones who tried the most. For example, in school. Do you remember how many times you failed an exercise? Only to get it right after so many attempts right?
Another thing that fascinates me in schools are the masters. We try and fail and the masters don`t give up on us, because they know we can make it. In the same analogy, after reading so many success books, like Napolean Hill (a classic), Dean Grazioli, Abraham Hicks and many others. They all say the same thing: the smartest way to achieve success is to find ourselves masters that will guide us and don`t give up on us, because they know we can make it, since they have achieved success themselves.
Then, let`s suppose you wish to achieve freedom in your life. And, you want to create a life and business that you love. The smartest and fastest way to achieve it is to find yourself people that already have freedom in their lives.
So, surround yourself with people that have created a life and business that they love, so you can create yours. I found a community ready to offer their hand to you, just like they had done for me.