FRIENDS: A person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection 9 0f 65

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How do ‘friends’ and the world of transformation correlate or interact? Perhaps the key is to distinguish “the bond of mutual affection” that binds the friendship first?

When I started my personal development in October 1993 with the Landmark Forum (see videos here). As with all the courses I have undertaken, there is plenty of opportunities for participants to get up on the microphone and SHARE!

Over the years, I have been amazed about the kind of friendships available on this planet noting “the bond of mutual affection” comes in all shapes and sizes.

From a transformational perspective, I can say that a friendship exists by virtue of a declaration.

“You are my friend!” I cheerfully smile.

“Urm but Charles, I hardly know you!” You reply authentically perhaps?

“You are my friend, as you seem/appear to like reading my blogs?!”

This simple scenario can “oh so easily” be broken by a “bad” reply or comment at the bottom of this post for example.

If this occurs, you can see a potential for an ‘all of a sudden’ UPSET, which can be any one or a combination of the following 3:

1.     Thwarted Intention

2.     Unfulfilled Expectation

3.     Undelivered Communication

In that moment, you can see I may even be justified in UNFRIENDING the person. However, if I am big enough to see the other person’s point of view or even allow such a post/comment etc, then one could say I have generated the friendship, with the person, in the face of no agreement.

 Hmm, a little too much transformation maybe?

 Well actually I learned the GOLD whilst assisting in the Young Persons Forum when the young people were asked who was responsible for them having a great life?

  • ·       Mum
  • ·       Dad
  • ·       You

I recall the inquiry between the children was wonderful refreshing, loving and eventually PROFOUND.

They considered that they were 100 % responsible for all their relationships!

Wow, as a 56 year old, I have really engaged in causing this with all my friends, and looking at the sources of my upsets mentioned above, I assert I have mastered great friendships and hey, a mantra I learned in the Team Management and Leadership Program was/is:

“What can I give up to have love be present with this person?” J

How many Friends Really Matter to You?


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About the Author:

Charles Crawshaw: “Personal Development and Learning New Things!”

Born in Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, United Kingdom in September 1963, Charles started his personal development in October 1993; by learning something new, through a top training and education company called Landmark Worldwide.

New skills, new possibilities, new views on life, new ways of being and so much more have all been grown and expanded, with his ongoing participation. There are remarkable and inspiring courses for our young people (8-12-year-olds) and teenagers (13-18) which underline Charles’s passion for sharing this work with younger generations.

Future based training; breakthrough thinking and digital disruption are all embraced in his blogs, with his recommended courses pointing to many sources; including Landmark Worldwide and online, through Six Figure Mentors.

Charles thanks you for taking the time to read his blogs and, as taught to him by a 10-year-old boy called Reuben:

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