How to know what I want? What Is my passion? Why am I struggling to find my passion?
Hold on, hold on… You’re not the only one with such thoughts.
The percentage of the people who have found their passion in an early age is veeery small. In fact, most of the people, at least in our age, are having this same thoughts.
The reason behind this, I think, is that society that we live in, starting with our parents and finishing with school and media, always tells us what is “true” for us, what we should be, what kind of professions are profitable and, thus, logical to take up, what should we want what is “real” to have and etc. For many of us, the outside noise can be so loud that we just cannot hear our inner voice.
I am not an exception, by the way. Till 17 years old I tough that I knew what I wanted. Until one day I caught myself on the thought that if I had everything that I thought I wanted, it’d be the worst scenario of my life! Because I wanted what my family wanted for me. And it was in contrast of how I imagined myself as a perfect job.
But I was lucky enough to soon find out what I wanted. It took me almost two years, but still I think it’s quiet quick, considering that a lot of people come to it way more late in their lives.
Here are the things that helped me on my way.
1. Finding out what you DON'T want
Start with finding out what you don’t want first.
Yes, you heard right. People always tend to think about what they want, but this actually gets easier when you first define what you DON’T want in the first place.
For example, I always knew that I wanted to work in the corporate world.
But I didn’t realize that I hated the idea of working for someone else. I just don’t like being told what to do and what not to do. At 17 I also realized that I hated the idea of getting up early in the morning to get to the work. I just love enjoying my mornings and I love doing things by my own.
So now I knew that, although I like corporate world, I have to look for something where I can be my own boss.
No matter how big or legendary that company is, it just isn’t my thing. I found that I have to have my own business. Let it be small, but let it be mine. I like making decisions and having full control over everything.
This way, paying attention to what I DON’T want in my life, gave me more clearance on what direction to continue my research.
2. Try out different things
Before finding my passion, there was a time (at 17) when I was having double thoughts around different things that I was interested in, or should I say, I’d like to try before making a decision whether I want it or not. At that time, I was interested in web design blogging, psychology and marketing.
If you have some ideas in your head but you’re not sure about them, my advice to you- start exploring, take action, get yourself there. You can’t know what you want if you haven’t tried it yet.
As Marie Forleo says,
“Clarity comes from engagement, not thought”.
So in order to figure it out, I started to learn the basics of web design. I spent a year studying it when I understood that it’s not really what I wanted. After the first failure, I jumped into the next one, and then the next one and only the third one was the right fit.
Please just remember, that every time you fail to find it, you are still one step closer to it than before trying it. Time by time, your circle will narrow down, and it’s going to be easier for you to find it out.
So, here is my journey of finding my passion.
Two things to remember: start by defining what you DON’T want, and then ENGAGE into those you’re doubting about to get clear.
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