Belief in Recovery

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Hi it's Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a "Recovery from Addiction Series", If not read on:

Belief

Introduction

What is Belief
What is Self Belief
How will it help me in my recovery
How will it help me in Life
How do I come to believe
How will I feel when I start to believe

What is Belief

Def (Noun); 1.  An acceptance that something exists or is true (even without evidence)
2.  Trust, faith or confidence in (someone or something)

For me belief is what kept me in recovery, when I first got sober, without having belief in recovery and the ongoing possibility that I could stay sober I probably would have relapsed early in recovery. It is not important what I came to believe, but just to initially believe that recovery can work. I chose to open my mind, let go and allow it to happen.

What is Self Belief

1.  A belief in your self that you can achieve what you put your heart & soul into.
2.  A positive emotion & state of mind.
3.  A willingness to take a chance without knowing the outcome.
4.  Accepting failures as a learning
5.  Courage.

Like belief above I had to begin to believe in myself, which was hard to do as I had such low self esteem and an ego that kept telling me I can't. To date there are still days when I lose all faith in myself and my abilities. To grow my self belief I HAD to STOP beating myself up and carrying a lot of historical negative emotions, like guilt, shame, remorse & resentment. You must wipe your own slate clean, even if others have not yet. I was my own biggest critic, and if I am unaware can be it again. I have self belief that at least today I will remain sober & that "How" is not my concern, as long as I believe it will just be. This applies to a lot of other areas im my life besides my recovery.

How will it help me in my recovery

1.  Make me more resilient & less likely to give in to cravings.
2.  Gives me the power of choice and the confidence to stand firm.
3.  Gives me the self esteem to move forward with the knowing that all will be fine even when I’m getting it tough.

4. This too shall pass.

The greatest slogan for me in AA is "This Too Shall Pass". I have used it time and again and everytime I'm having a bad day I always remind myself that this too shall pass. Hind sight can be great here as it does prove that this too does pass, no matter what the issue was. Myself, like many addicts catastrophize arguments & issues and make them larger than they are. A week later when we look back, it is almost amusing, in many of my cases, just how trivial it is now.

How will it help me in Life

1.  I will be in control of my life
2.  I can make a better tomorrow
3.  I can make and take opportunities
4.  I don’t need approval from others
5.  My intentions now effect my life
6.  The right people will come my way
7.  Positive feelings & thoughts
8.  I am connected to all

9.   I can deal with adversity and turn it around.
10.  My hard work will be rewarded.
11.  Failure is a learning and can be good.
12.  I don’t have to take everything personally.
13.  Feelings are transitory, I am not my feelings.
14.  I will forgive and forget and let go of all my past resentments.
15.  I already have all I need.

For me, recovery is the foundation of my life. Before coming into my recovery and for atleast the last 10 years of my addiction, I was just existing. I have found over the past 14 years, I have been growing as a person, sometimes slowly and sometimes more rapid. It has not been easy, but I've always held onto the faith & belief that things will always get better and too also appreciate each day and everyone and thing in it. As per the 15 points above and the 12 Promises of AA, see link at bottom if the page:

How do I come to believe

1.  Accept that it is okay to fail & get things wrong, as that is how we learn.
2.  Let go of negative feelings and thoughts, especially about ourselves.
3.  Change I can’t to I want to, and then take the chance and do it.
4.  Do something every day that challenges you in some way.

5.  Make change your new habit and stick to it even if your own self talk and others disagree.
6.  If at first you don't succeed try & try again. Have faith
7.  You started this process when you first stepped through the door of trecovery.
8.  Ironically – to maintain our addiction and addictive behaviours, we have all been doing this for years, but in the wrong direction!!!

My journey is my journey and everyones is unique to themselves. There is in my belief no right nor wrong way, the only way is the way that works best for you. The main ingredient is to be open to everything and attached to nothing, until you find what gives you a sense of meaning & purpose in life. That is the key. I had my faith from child hood which I fell back on, however in time that has also evolved. I am a strong believer in the Law Of Attraction & that there is much more to life than our experience on Earth. Life is never ending, ever evolving.

How will I feel when I start to believe

1.  As this is a process and like any process in life, you will not notice the changes at the time     but will notice it over time.
2.  You will feel it within yourself, more happy, grateful, loving, open, honest, caring,              ………..the list goes on.
3.  What you wont be is your old addictive self.

I feel alive every day, since I found recovery, I'm more open to chance and just let things be.

Summary

1.  Belief & self belief are stages of being.
2.  Everyone has the ability and capability of feeling & being in a positive state of belief.
3.  This can be learned by all.
4.  Once you start noticing the positive changes in yourself and experiencing a better life, thoughts of addiction will go.

My next article is on Core Beliefs, stay tuned.

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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me, but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.

I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through on line marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7 day video series to watch.

 

 
http://singaporeaa.org/PDFs/The_AA_Promises.pdf 


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