the state of being happy."she struggled to find happiness in her life"
synonyms:contentment, pleasure, contentedness, satisfaction, cheerfulness, cheeriness, merriment, merriness, gaiety, joy, joyfulness, joyousness, joviality, jollity, jolliness, glee, blitheness, carefreeness, gladness, delight, good spirits, high spirits, light-heartedness, good cheer, well-being, enjoyment, felicity;
Hi it's Dermot again. If you read my last blog from 2nd May, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a "Recovery from Addiction Series", If not read on:
PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS
TIPS ON HOW TO FULFILL YOUR LIFE IN RECOVERY
When I was in active addiction, I didn't know how I felt. I was numb to emotion. I thought I was happy when 6pm came and I finished work and went on the drink. That's all I looked forward to all day. I was living in a bubble and I suppose that is all I knew. Stepping out of the box and into the reality of recovery, I see & mostly feel, just how miserable my existance, Not life, was. I was far from happy or even content, in fact it is those memories, especially of my last 2 years of drinking that re enforced my desire to stay sober. It is then, that I was in a position to start to find true happiness.
What is Happiness to Me?
-How do I measure my own happiness?
-How do I know if I am genuinely happy?
-Can happiness be learned or grow (fake it to make it)?
-Will my happiness effect others?
-Is happiness contagious?
How can I be happy?
-Happiness comes from within.
-Challenge negative thoughts and feelings and replace them with positive ones – Life skill.
-Focus on the here and now as much as you can.
-Learn & Practice Transcendental Meditation, Mindfulness or Yoga.
-Let go of other peoples’ negative opinions about yourself.
-Let go of your own negative opinions about yourself
What do I need to do to stay happy?
-Happiness is a positive emotion and also behaviour which is contagious and will replace negative emotions and behaviour.
-Do what makes you happy and avoid what makes you sad.
-Keep doing what you are doing and don’t stop once you have achieved a feeling of happiness and contentment.
Live in the present moment.
-How do I deal with adverse life situations and people & stay happy?
-Live and accept life and don’t avoid or hide from it.
-Always remind yourself “This too shall pass”
-All emotions both negative and positive are beneficial to our growth as people in recovery and need to be felt and not avoided.
-Don’t make any big decisions when in a low mood, wait until you mood gets better.
-Avoid overly negative people & pray for them.
How do I deal with my own negative emotions to make them more positive?
-Do not over analyze your negative thoughts, as that’s all they are: thoughts, nothing else.
-You can’t monitor all your thoughts, but you can stop them once they start to become overbearing: i.e. sensitivity, paranoia.
-Use your own emotions as a barometer to your own thinking.
-Check the facts before you make a judgement.
-Avoid isolating and become part of AA or another fellowship group and TALK.
What does it mean to be in Being?
-Recovery is not a one off experience/ situation.
-Recovery is a lifestyle change.
-Recovery HAS to evolve into a major part of our own daily routine or habit.
-When in a state of being you are in a state of acceptance and not resistance.
-Although life around you will probably be the same, you will feel an inner peace and not harbour resentments, anxieties, fears and other character defects.
-Happiness is an emotion that can be learned and worked towards.
-Keep a check on your emotions.
-Let go of negativity, by focusing on the positive opposite.
-Check the facts before you make judgements and assumptions.
-Live life one day at a time, not in the past or future.
-Accept recovery not as a burden but as a gift.
My Next Blog is Getting the Positive, from the Negative
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