VERB (USED WITH OBJECT) [AD·MIT·TED, AD·MIT·TING.]
1.to permit; allow.
2.to acknowledge; confess: He admitted his guilt.
3.to grant in argument; concede: The fact is admitted.
to have capacity for: This passage admits two abreast.
VERB (USED WITHOUT OBJECT) [AD·MIT·TED, AD·MIT·TING.]
1. to permit the possibility of something; allow (usually followed by of): The contract admits of no other interpretation.ad·mit
Hi it's Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a "Recovery from Addiction Series", If not read on:
The next step is to admit to their acknowledgement that there is a definite problem. If a person tries to abstain or control their addiction, and finds that they cannot, and if they are being honest with themselves, do admit to having an issue or problem. To admit is to take responsiblity and ownership.
This admition is Step 1 of Alcoholics Anonymous “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol & our lives had become unmanageable”. This was the hardest yet most liberating step for me.
Although I knew deep down that my drinking was not normal, my own ego, pride & deluded denial, would not allow me to "Publicly" Admit to this. It took a number of consequences, hospitalisations & a treatment program to get me to ADMIT publicly that: "I am Dermot & I am an Alcoholic" Infact for the first 2 years of my recovery, I had to admit this daily to myself, just to reinforce the fact that I am. That is the power of addiction.
As this series is about recovery, anyone in recovery will have admitted atleast that they have a problem, and can relate to the journey. As said above stopping is the easy part, staying stopped takes a lot of work.
When you admit to being an addict/alcoholic, that doesn't suddenly remove all thoughts and feelings about using/drinking again. Feeling too good or too bad, old attitudes, behaviours & complaceney can be huge triggers to relapsing. I see this all the time in my work. People will "Lapse" and not even be aware of the fact that they were craving or even thinking of a drink/using.
Life goes on, mainly on it's terms not yours, and we all have to adapt and adjust and just try our best on a daily basis.
The other aspect of "Admitting" is asking for help. Pride & ego can be a huge block here for people. Addiction is shame based in society and people feel embarrassed, I know I did. Added to this, asking for help is something that doesn't come naturally to an addict as during the dark days of addiction, asking for help would mean having to admit to yourself that you have a problem.
Everyone in life needs help and support from others. We are social beings and function much better when we commune. This is especially the case for anyone coming out of active addiction, where loneliness and isolation where the norm. Being part of something bigger than yourself is very spiritual and humbling.
In my opinion, everyone in early recovery needs to get involved with as many fellowship & aftercare support groups, that they can get involved with. There is never too many, as in time they will reinforce your recovery and resilience to deal with life. This will then help evolve admitting to accepting.
To sum up, admitting to an addiction problem is taking responsibility for it. Once that admission is made, both privately & publicly, it can't be taken back.
My next article is on Acceptance, stay tuned.
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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me, but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.
I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through on line marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7 day video series to watch.
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