Happiness, Either You Want It, or You Don't

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Okay, so happiness. You either really want it, or you don't. Now, let me tell you what I mean by that. When I was 18 years old, one Saturday morning, I had just got home from playing basketball with some friends. I was sitting at the kitchen counter. I was wearing high-tops, shorts and I didn't have a shirt on, and I was eating some Honeycomb.

And my dad came in, and he looked at me. And these are the words that he said. Now, before I say that, you need to know that when my dad said something, it meant something. It meant something because, like, say, for instance, my mom wanted to know everything and was always asking questions and involved in everything. But my dad, my dad, he kind of waited. He waited until it was time. Time to say something. And so, you knew if he was talking to you or communicating with you, that what he had to say was important. And so, you listened.

So, he walks into the kitchen. He looks at me, and he says, "Steve until you really want it, you're never gonna know. Until you really want it, you're never gonna know." And then he turned around, and he walked away.

Now, I knew what he was talking about, and it made me mad. In fact, it ticked me off. And I stewed about it, I thought about it, and I did that for about two months. And the reality was, I didn't want to be told what to do. But the more I thought about it, the more I knew he was right. But I didn't want him to know that I thought he was right. But I knew he was, and I had a decision to make. And if I really wanted it...and let me tell you what he was talking about. He was talking about the spiritual principles in my life and coming to know that those spiritual things were true. And that I needed to make a decision.

And so, I took some action. And that action has led me where I am today, where I've come to understand that there are some principles or some truths in my life, in everybody's lives that are true. And then, if you apply them, you can find happiness.

Now, some people are gonna give excuses. Like, "That may work for you, but it won't work for me." And then I ask them this question, "Well, why is that the case?" And they look at me, and they're like, "Well, truth is relative, and what I believe may not be what you believe." And I'm like, "Really? Are you serious? Truth is relative? Well, that's a bunch of crap, it really is. You're telling me that there aren't things in life that you can identify that just work? That are really principles that are truths that if I apply them, practical application, that they actually work and lead to a particular outcome? That happens all the time."

And when I talk to people, I'm going, "No, there is a hierarchy of truths that we all have to come to know and understand. And if I can figure out higher-level truths and begin to act on those things, then I can receive the blessings and the outcomes that come from living those higher-level truths." You may be living at a lower level, which sounds super judgmental. Then people get all up in a huff, and they don't wanna hear it, and then they just turn off, and they continue to live their life the way they're living it.

But the reality is if you wanna choose happiness, then you've gotta really want it, and you have to say, "Okay, I am gonna go on a journey. I'm gonna go seeking for truths. And I'm gonna try to identify the highest level of truths that I can find in order to move forward and find happiness in my life," instead of for just settling on where you're at.

Here's another reason that people give me. "Oh, I don't have the time." No. We make time for things that are important. You need to make time for your happiness. You need to make time to seek out the truth and sources of truth that will help you in your life. "Well, I don't have the money." It doesn't take money. All it takes is time. And time is the most important thing. It is the new money. Time is the new money. And if you'll use your time wisely and spend it wisely, you can change your life. Well, some people then say, "Well, I don't have the same knowledge and expertise." Well, then, get it. Get the knowledge and act. We've already talked about that this week.

I could go on and on. There's a lot of different excuses that people give. But successful people...successful people who choose happiness are those who take action because they really, really want it. And the sad part is, most people don't. But if you can quickly, and speed matters, implement and execute on the things that are important, then...especially the things that really do bring happiness, then you can truly, truly find it.

Like, I'll give you a key to happiness. "Love is the key to open the hearts of those seeking the door of truth." Look around you and make a decision every day to love someone. First, yourself and then focus on your family, people around you. And you're like, "Well, I don't even talk to some people in my family." Really? "Well, they did something to me, they offended me, and I can't forgive them." Well, then, there's a lot of truth that you need to learn about relationships and in life. For example, "I would never let a problem to be solved, get in the way of a person to be loved"...this is what Thomas Monson has said, "Never let a problem to be solved get in the way of a person to be loved." A Truth in life.

So, anyway, today's podcast...I mean, today's blog...man, you gotta want it. And if you want it, and you choose to want it, then I would go on a personal journey to seek out truth. And if you do, it will change your life, and I promise you that. And I hope you have a great day, and we'll talk to you later.

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