“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou
In today's world, it is easy to focus on ourselves - our goals, our dreams, our future plans. In many ways, society shapes us in many ways, more than we realise - from our interactions with others to our personal development through the perception of others as a reflection of our self-worth.
Our childhood experiences which include our parents, siblings and peers lead us to a path with a particular set of beliefs and patterns that have a significant impact on our future relationships.
I was the only girl in the family with two older brothers. Our parents had difficult childhoods. My mom had to leave her home at a young age to live with a family who offered a home for her to go to school on the condition that she helped with all the household tasks. My dad had to leave school when he was in 3rd grade of primary to support his family financially.
Even though my mum graduated as a primary school teacher her pay was low. My dad had a job as a clerk in a grocery store. They did the best they could to put food on our table, and they loved us in their own unique way.
But there was a lot of financial tension, and they were so overworked that there was very little interaction with my brothers and me.
During my childhood, I never heard encouraging words or positive comments, only anger and criticism.
I took these early experiences with me for years, and to my regret, it continued to influence me into adulthood, and I behaved similarly with my own children.
Thanks of the help of some extraordinary people who’ve seen the best in me, and the many books that I have read to change my beliefs and perceptions; I now know understand and appreciate how empowering is to gain your own sense of self-awareness and confidence. I have a new opportunity to do the same for someone else. And you do too.
While it is wonderful to help others by doing things for them, it is much more inspiring and empowering for people to do things for themselves.
“The beauty of empowering others is that your own power is not diminished in the process,” said Barbara Coloroso.
Empowering others as we continue developing ourselves, is the key to lead other people into positive vibes, to encourage them to do positive things they already want to do. We can achieve this in some little ways that can range from purely made them realise the new aspects of their personalities.
Our spouse, our children, our family and friends are people we need to empower on a regular basis. They are the closest to us but being the advocate for positive change for those around us takes real dedication and engagement, but it will make us a more powerful and effective person.
In your opinion, what are the most significant benefits and advantages to be gained from empowering others? We would love to hear your thoughts.
With much appreciation