Today we are going to talk about the next color of the Rainbow of Happiness, Yellow. Yellow is the color of the shining sun as we see it. The light from the sun is the basis of life on earth. Plants need sunlight to make their food and live. Without sunlight, there would be no plant life and no plant life means no animal or human life. The sun continuously gives us so much and today’s blog post is about precisely that: Giving.
When people think of Giving, they normally straight-away think of giving money. But Giving is so much more than about money. So, I want to broaden the horizons a bit today and talk about other forms of giving as well.
Before that though let’s think about the act of Giving for a while, I want to start with a very basic point and build from there.
If I were to give you an apple, you would probably consider it a positive thing, unless you don’t like apples. That’s because you could eat the apple and derive some satisfaction from it. On the other hand, if I grabbed a handful of sand and gave it to you. My guess is that you wouldn’t be too impressed with it. It would dirty your hands and there wouldn’t be much use for it. Further, you could probably grab a handful of sand yourself anytime you wanted. So, it would not be something positive to you.
The point of the example was:
For Giving to be Meaningful, the Giver needs to Give something that has Value to the Receiver.
Sounds obvious, doesn’t it? But think about that for a second again. If you look at it another way, what it implies is that if you have something that others value then you are able to become a giver. So you don’t need money to become a giver. You can give others things that they value, knowledge for example or your time or your experience or your care and love.
Most of you are probably already doing that in some capacity, as parents, as relatives, as friends or as a community member. We give love and we care for our kids, we spend the time with our friends and relatives, and we share our knowledge and experience with them.
That brings about two questions.
One question is, how can we give more?
But before that, I want to answer the other question, why should we want to give more?
That brings us back to the Rainbow of Happiness and why Giving is a part of the Rainbow. The short answer is:
The more you give the happier you will become
Why is this you may ask?
I’ll put forward three reasons.
Firstly, when you give, psychologically you recognize that you have value to give. Despite any problems or difficulties that you may have, you have Value that you can share with others. The act of giving is an affirmation of this fact.
Secondly, when you give, the receiver of your giving normally becomes happy. Happiness is contagious and when you see someone happy and smiling, you will also feel that happiness, even if only for a moment.
Thirdly, if you look around in the world, you will notice that nothing can exist for its own self. Everything has a purpose that is outside of itself. Think about it. When you give, you are doing something that benefits more than just yourself. This gives meaning and purpose to your life and as we have seen in the last blog post, a sense of purpose is a key element of the Rainbow of Happiness.
So there, 3 reasons why you should give more.
That brings us to the next question, how can we give more?
The first way in which we can give more is to focus on the value that you are giving. The value that we give should always be more than we get in return.
Wait a minute, if we always give more than we get won’t we make a loss? Isn’t it a bad mindset for business?
Let me explain. When I say give I don’t necessarily mean for free. I mean to give more value than you receive.
For example, if you need heart surgery, you will probably need to pay quite a bit for it. But because of it, you get to have a longer life and because of your longer life you can do and achieve things the value of which are many, many times more than what the surgery cost you. So the surgeon has given you more value than he will receive. Therefore, the surgeon is Giving.
Another example, someone sells you a car and makes a profit. That doesn’t mean that you didn’t get value. You need the car to get to your job 20 miles away every day, so the car is allowing you to take that job and earn that income. Or you may use the car as a taxi and earn your living. Although the seller of the car made a profit, the value that is given you is much higher. So the car seller has given you more value than he will receive. Thus he is Giving.
In everything you do, seek to give more in value than what you will receive
The second way in which we can give more is to focus on solutions and to have a longer-term focus.
Allow me to explain. In developing a solution to a problem, often there are two types of solutions. A quick fix and a lasting solution. For example, if there is a leak in the roof, a quick fix might be to get some buckets under the leaks. A lasting solution will be to fix the roof. Typically, a quick fix limits the damage that is being caused. It is a temporary measure put in place while the lasting solution is being developed and implemented. While a lasting solution solves the problem at its root.
There is a saying
Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.
Giving a man a fish is a quick fix. Teaching a man to fish is a lasting solution. Let’s not misunderstand here, the quick fix is important. If the man doesn’t get the fish he may die of hunger and won’t be around to be taught how to fish. So, in the short term, it is important. In the long-term, however, it is important that the quick fix not
When you are giving, ask yourself whether your giving is a quick fix or a lasting solution. If you can give towards a lasting solution the impact and value of your giving will be amplified.
Most of the time the lasting solution is related to education, infrastructure or research.
The third way in which we can give more is to focus on chains of transmission when we give. What I mean is to focus on the type of giving that can be easily transmitted on. In the age of social media and WhatsApp, this should be easy enough to understand. For example, if you teach two people something and each of them teaches another two people and so on and so forth, the transmission numbers might look like this:
If you have beneficial information, knowledge or experience, share it with others and share it online.
We live in a very self-centric, consumer driven society. The emphasis is on taking rather than giving. Getting what you want. What’s in it for Me.
The irony is, the more you can give, the more you can get. There is a great quote from Zig Ziglar:
You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want
I believe John F Kennedy hit the nail on the head when he said:
Ask not what your country can do for you; Ask what you can do for your country
Which for the context of this blog post, I will rephrase as:
Ask not what you can Get; Ask what you can Give
I believe that this world would be a much better place and that many of our problems would be solved if more people lived their lives focused on what they could give and contribute rather than focusing on what they can get for themselves. This should be taught to our kids.
The main points of this blog post are:
- For Giving to be Meaningful, the Giver needs to Give something that has Value to the Receiver.
- The more you give the happier you will become
- In everything you do, seek to give more in value than what you will receive
- Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime
- When you are giving, ask yourself whether your giving is a quick fix or a lasting solution. If you can give towards a lasting solution the impact and value of your giving will be amplified.
- If you have beneficial information, knowledge or experience, share it with others and share it online.
- You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want
- Ask not what you can Get; Ask what you can Give
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What are your thoughts on today’s blog post? Drop me a comment, I would love to know your thoughts.
Thanks for reading my blog post and I’ll see you in the next post. I leave you with the words of the poet Hafez.
P.S...The higher the value of what you give to the receiver, the greater the inner satisfaction you will feel.
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How much more awesome would that be?
How gratifying would it be to see the joy on the faces of the people you helped?
How inspiring would it be to hear the thanks and gratitude from the mouths of those whose dreams you help achieve?
How fulfilled and soul-satisfied would you feel?
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