How to survive Midlife Crisis

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Is it a bad thing to have a Midlife crisis? 

Life has reached a turning point and I have now started to live the second half of my life. But, I cannot seem to shift this uncomfortable feeling - Have I really lived my true self so far? The days go by so fast and I feel slightly restless, anxious but I have not got a clue what to do. I just know that in my mind, this is not a place I want to stay, I want a change...

If you feel the same, you might be suffering a midlife crisis yourself. 

[Midlife Crisis]
a crisis that may be experienced in middle age involving frustration, panic, and feelings of pointlessness,sometimes resulting in radical and often ill-advised changes of lifestyle
(Collins English Dictionary - Complete & Unabridged 2012 Digital Edition)

This is exactly, undoubtfully me...

Having a mum who worked long hours and having been brought up by my grandmother, I was determined to bring my children up myself and not to miss out on any special moments. I worked part time to fit around the family and I thought I was happy.

But then my husband was becoming ill suffering from stress. The stress was not only from the nature of the job( a math teacher from a secondary school in UK!) but also from the financial pressure being a breadwinner supporting a family with a huge mortgage. 

Seeing my husband suffer everyday, I felt an overwhelming helplessness. If only I could earn enough money to free him from the job which makes him ill! I painfully realised that our lives are so tightly controlled by money. We cannot be free without enough money... 

Trying to find a more fulfilling job, I spent hours looking. I could not find anything worth applying for and I did not want to sacrifice the family time I cherish. If I start something new now, I have to find something I feel absolutely passionate about.

I started to research extensively and learned how important it is for each of us to have the skills to survive in this new digital world... The world is really changing very fast and that's when I decided to invest my education in digital marketing. I believe that digital marketing skills would be a necessity, whatever I decided to do in the future if I wanted to earn my own money. 

My journey has just started but I have learnt a lot already and I don't even know where to start....

I had to REALLY think about what I wanted from life. I had to face upto myself and look in the mirror. What have I been doing, where I am now, where do I want to go. How is my mental attitude affecting me, how much fear I have in me.

My life has gone upside down, sleepless nights, crying myself to sleep, emotional outbursts, fierce arguments.. It was truly exhausting but I had to face my demons and get it out from me I suppose? 

Going through my turbulance, now I feel that I have reached a quiet, determined space in me. ( at the moment- I should say- just in case!) I feel huge excitement, I have a developed sense of purpose, and am enjoying getting to know fabulously positive likeminded people...

What I have learned, just by taking one little (brave!) step has provided me with a huge amount of life lessons I never imagined before. 

So a midlife crisis is not a bad thing. A midlife crisis is an opportunity to reassess our life and take action to live our true selves. Let's embrace the midlife crisis in a big way- do not play small with an odd tatoo, sports car or an affair...!! Let's have a proper midlife crisis to change our life to be truly ourselves.

Refuse to end up being someone who regrets at death bed, wondering what if... 


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