Simple Definition of Fear
- :to be afraid of (something or someone)
- :to expect or worry about (something bad or unpleasant)
- :to be afraid and worried
Fear is a necessary response perceived physical and emotional danger; we feel fear and that allows us to protect ourselves from legitimate threats.
Life or Death?
Overcoming fear begins with recognizing that life or death situations are rare, reserved only for traumatic events and mostly physical in nature. Research tells us that all human beings are only born with two innate fears: the fear of falling, and the fear of loud noises. That means all other fears that we know and have today, we created. Think about that. Everyone has accumulated some fear: fear of the unknown, fear of the dark, fear of public speaking, fear of embarrassment. It’s okay to have some fears, but it’s time to identify those certain limiting fears that are preventing us from being the best version of ourselves.
Identify Your Fears
Here's the tough part, be honest with yourself, what do you fear? As a parent, I fear that I haven't prepared my children to face the harsh realities of life today, I haven't provided them with all of the emotional tools necessary to succeed in life and business today. As an entrepreneur, I fear not being successful, working endless hours with no or limited success. At the same time, I sometimes fear how I will handle everything if I am successful, will I be confident and find myself worthy of all I will have accomplished? As a person of faith, a Christian, how do I measure up to the blessings that have been bestowed upon me and will I be faithful to those principles in the future? And those fears are simply the tip of the iceberg! What I do know now is by asking those questions, we expose ourselves to fears we have created ourselves and that is the first step and best way to move past them.
Three Small Steps Forward
While the concept of fear and the methods for dealing with it require far more attention than this blog post will allow, there are three small steps each of us can take to begin facing our fears and reaping the rewards of overcoming these false ideas.
- Keep a journal, I actually started a handwritten composition book; reflect on your past experiences and all of those times you faced a situation you feared. Write it down. No matter how small or seemingly insignificant, write it down. I write each fear on a separate page of my journal. I started mine with asking a girl to dance for the first time, speaking in front of my classmates, learning to drive, taking the college entrance exams, you get the point, write them all down. After you've reflected on past fears, write down those you're facing today.
- What Happened? Go back to the first page of the journal and write the result. Did it really even matter? How do you feel today when confronted with the same situation? A lot of those fears will seem silly and unimportant, but that's the point, you overcame them and now recognize that you're better for having experienced that temporary anxiety. Maybe a situation or two didn't turn out for the best, maybe everything went horrible wrong, the point there is that the same result has occurred, you overcame them and now recognize that you're better for having experienced that temporary anxiety.
- Review your results! Keep the journal on your desk or by your bed, look at everything you've accomplished. Call it your Fears I Overcame Journal. At the bottom of each page, write an affirmation, I was afraid of (insert fear) and I survived; I am no longer afraid because I faced the fear I created. It sounds simple, but the exercise of knowing you overcame all of those fears will allow you to face all of the fears your creating for yourself now. You will be better on the far side or fear and become more confident in your ability to learn and grow into your best self.
You've Accomplished Much More Than you Know
Look at that book! If you take the time to write down all of your past fears, how you confronted them, and how everything turned out, you will realize how much you've accomplished. Those fears were created by you and overcome by you! Each time a new fear arises, look at that book, know you're just going to be adding another page to the list of fears you've overcome! You will survive and be better for the experience. My next entry, what if no one likes my blog post about the small steps to face our fear?
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