Are you stuck in a negative belief cycle? Don't worry! We have the potential to change our neuropathways and create a better life for ourselves.
In my latest article, I talked about the possibilities of a new life with the help of techniques that can change your neuropathways. This raised the question; What would you do with new, more positive beliefs about your abilities and future?
I said that I would show you a simple 4-step process that will help you to shape a more positive, more successful future. Carol Dweck, Professor of Psychology at Stanford University created this 4-step process to change a 'fixed' mindset to a 'growth' mindset.
Carol Dweck's 4-Step process to creating a growth mindset:
1. Learn to hear your fixed mindset “voice.”
For example, if you are faced with a challenge you may hear it say “Are you sure you can do it?
When you hit a setback you may hear “This would have been easy if you really had talent” or “ It’s not too late to back out, make excuses, and try to regain your dignity.”
As you face criticism, you might hear yourself say “It’s not my fault. It was something or someone else’s fault.” You might feel yourself getting angry at the person who is giving you feedback. Even though the other person might be giving you specific, constructive feedback, but you might be hearing “I’m really disappointed in you.”
2. Recognize that you have a choice.
You have a choice when it comes to interpreting challenges, setbacks and criticism. You can either see them from a fixed mindset which will make you feel as though your abilities are lacking Or you can use them to increase your efforts, change your strategies and expand your abilities.
As you face challenges, setbacks, and criticism, listen to the fixed mindset voice and...
3. Talk back to it with a growth mindset voice.
As you approach a challenge:
THE FIXED-MINDSET says “Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don’t have the talent.”
THE GROWTH-MINDSET answers, “I’m not sure I can do it now, but I think I can learn to with time and effort.”
FIXED MINDSET: “What if you fail—you’ll be a failure”
GROWTH MINDSET: “Most successful people had failures along the way.”
FIXED MINDSET: “If you don’t try, you can protect yourself and keep your dignity.”
GROWTH MINDSET: “If I don’t try, I automatically fail. Where’s the dignity in that?”
As you hit a setback:
FIXED MINDSET: “This would have been a snap if you really had talent.”
GROWTH MINDSET: “That is so wrong. Basketball wasn’t easy for Michael Jordan and science wasn’t easy for Thomas Edison. They had a passion and put in tons of effort.
As you face criticism:
FIXED MINDSET: “It’s not my fault. It was something or someone else’s fault.”
GROWTH MINDSET: “If I don’t take responsibility, I can’t fix it. Let me listen—however painful it is– and learn whatever I can.”
4. Take the growth mindset action.
Over time, which voice you heed becomes pretty much your choice. Whether you; take on the challenge wholeheartedly, learn from your setbacks and try again, hear the criticism and act on it is now in your hands.
Practice hearing both voices, and practice acting on the growth mindset. See how you can make it work for you.
If you want to read Professor Dweck's full version of the 4-step process click here.
Why not give yourself a chance of success? Everyone deserves to be successful and that includes you!
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