VERB (USED WITH OBJECT) [BLAMED, BLAM·ING.]
to hold responsible; find fault with; censure: I don't blame you for leaving him.
to place the responsibility for (a fault, error, etc.) (usually followed by on): I blame the accident on her.
Informal. blast; damn (used as a mild curse): Blame the rotten luck.
an act of attributing fault; censure; reproof: The judge said he found nothing to justify blame in the accident.
responsibility for anything deserving of censure: We must all share the blame for this deplorable condition.
Hi it's Dermot again. If you read my last blog from 2nd April, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a "Recovery from Addiction Series", If not read on:
When I was in active addiction, I was full of blame. It was everyone elses fault, for everything. My life wasn't working due to my drinking, but I never blamed the drink for that.
Why did I blame? The main reason for this is that I did not want to take responsibility FOR ANYTHING.
Why not? Because to take responsibility would mean taking ownership.
Why not take ownership? That would mean that I would have to take off the blinkers and admit that I have a problem, yes with ALCOHOL. God forbid!!
Deep down, and like many other addicts, I knew that my drinking was not normal, but denial & delusion got in the way. The best way to stay in denial & deluded is to BLAME.
In time this blaming became habitual, and happened on a subconscious level without me even realising that I was. For more indepth info on this subject, click the link below:
When I first got into recovery, I was still full of character defects & blame was one of those defects. I did slowly become more responsible over time and the more I have taken responsibility for myself the less I blame.
The Law Of Attraction states: "What you put out is what you get back". I know it drifts away from addiction and recovery, however I have found that it has strenghtened my recovery to no end.
I now totally believe that I am 100% responsible for every thought, feeling and action I make. I cannot blame, because to do so takes away my ownership & I fall back into the victim roll again.
Sometimes I struggle with this and blaming is a tempting cop out, but I feel sorry for myself as soon as I go down that road. Poor me's lead to depression, a road I definately DO NOT want to travel down.
So ask yourself an honest question, does blaming help or hinder you?
My next article is on Boredom, stay tuned.
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