[ak- sep-t uhns]
the act of taking or receiving something offered.
favorable reception; approval; favor.
the act of assenting or believing: acceptance of a theory.
the fact or state of being accepted or acceptable.
Hi it's Dermot again. If you read my last blog from 25th March, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a "Recovery from Addiction Series", If not read on:
Acceptance in recovery is a process and rarely does it happen instantly. In early recovery we have to first come to terms with admitting the problem and everything that needs to be changed as a result of that admission.
All change is hard as it takes us out of our comfort zone, even if the comfort zone was very uncomfortable. We are creatures of habit. Every one is an individual, but it is a known fact that it takes up to 90 days to give yourself enough time, with your new routine to form a habit.
Results and action speak louder than words and it is only through each persons own experience, can they see these changes happen (hind sight), but also by keeping a daily progress diary and daily goals to follow. I always say: Energy + Time = Results.
As we progress in recovery and start to see positive changes, then we become less resistant & more willing to let go of old unhelpful attitudes and behaviours and more motivated to accept new ones.It's a process.
With acceptance, the desire and preoccupation with drink & drugs lessen and are replaced with other thoughts, feelings & behaviours. My example was being totally absorbed mentally with alcohol, from the moment I awoke to the time I eventually passed out. The thought of drinking, even before I started drinking was prominent in my mind. I had little mental time for anything else. As I progressed in recovery my mindset changed and my thoughts changed to other things. It is very rare that I think of a drink these days, and if I do, there is absolutely no emotional attachment or craving for it.
Acceptance and letting go, are congruent and work hand in hand, complimenting each other. As recovery is a process and a journey, everyone's own experience on this journey will be unique. What applies to us all is to be willing, despite how hard a day you might be having, to believe that YOU are and can change.
To sum up, acceptance is a process of change from admitting to become willing to allowing recovery to happen.
My next article is on Ambivalence, stay tuned.