When I left my job in March 2016, I had been ready for several years. I was so drained by inhuman expectations and rage outbursts from management and I dreaded Monday mornings which meant that another exhausting work week was dawning. After 8 years (7 too many, I'd tell you if you ask me today), I handed in my notice.
In the months leading up to the 'big day', I prepared to resign many of times but got scared and decided to wait another month.
Finally, I did it. And it felt great!
Since then, I've never looked back. Even when the going gets tough, I never regret my decision.
Here are some of the signs I ignored for years. Maybe they sound familiar to you?
- I stopped enjoying my job. On paper, it was the job of my dreams but over the years I came to realize that reality is far from what I imagined and I started to resent going to work.
- I was not the best version of myself - at work nor at home. At work, I had my guards up because I never know would happen next. Who would yell, who would cry, who would get fired? When I come home I was exhausted. I dreamt of having a surplus on my parent/spouse account but I was just so tired.
- I felt professionally understimulated. I knew that I was not meeting my full potential, but the circumstances made me stay under the radar. Consequently, I missed a lot of opportunities to grow.
- I found the job and your tasks are meaningless. I was demotivated by the working environment, management, meaningless meetings, meaningless changes to the strategy, organization etc.
- My health was affected by the stressful working conditions. I couldn't sleep and I started shaking on the inside. Then my hands started shaking and I went to the doctor. He told me to find another job before this one would eat me alive.
- I was so exhausted that I couldn't even think about finding a new job and starting all over, so finally, I just quit...
There are many reasons that it took so long. Maybe you recognize some of them. What will everyone think? What should I tell people when they ask what happened? What should I tell people when the ask what I do for a living? Who am I without a job? Can we afford to lose my income? When will I be ready and have the energy to find another job?
My husband, who had witnessed the whole thing was supportive of my decision. At one point, we started to save up so-called "go to h.. money" every month. You know, the kind of money which puts you in a position to tell your boss to g. .. .... at any given moment. It kind of started as a joke, but it turned out handy when I finally quit.
But as I have learned, leaving your job is not about being financially ready. It's about being mentally ready. I wouldn't recommend waiting until you have your back against the wall. That said, you can prepare and work on both your mental readiness and your financial readiness months or even years before you leave your job.
A year after I resigned, I joined an amazing educational program on online marketing and affiliate marketing. It gives me the opportunity to earn while I learn. I wish I knew about this while I still had my job. Then I would have started while I was still working and quietly positioned myself to quit when the earnings were high enough to replace my income.
If you are in that place, I would highly recommend you to consider this opportunity.
Check out this 7-day series about the program. If you're in the same place as I was, I bet you will find it interesting!