We all know that familiar pull of procrastination, don't we? I know it well.
The truth is that when I wake up all of the tasks I need to accomplish are listed in my head. Of course, then I get busy, busy with busy tasks which help me avoid the one thing I am dreading.
This can go on for days. You have been there, haven't you? I've put off uncomfortable situations for years. I can tell you, they didn't get easier with time and they didn't go away.
So, why do we procrastinate? The author of You Are A Badass, Jen Sincero, makes this wise observation. "Procrastination is one of the most popular forms of self-sabotage because it's really easy."
She recalls, "One time I spent an entire month preparing my office to write a book. I got just the right chair, put my desk in the perfect place by the window, organized all the materials i needed and then reorganized them -three times- cleaned the place until you could perform surgery on the floor, and then proceeded to write the entire thing at my kitchen table."
Can you relate? I know I can. When I thought about how Sincero connected the dots, procrastination really being self-sabotage, it gave me pause.
Plain old procrastination seemed harmless, but self-sabatoge had a dark, sinister ring to it.
The next question was obvious and scary. Did I really want to look into the deep edge of the pool? Well, I had to. Sigh. You can't go back. Ready?
The next question was: Why did I self-sabatoge?
That's a game changer, right? A whole Pandora's Box of issues, right? So, let's ask. Will you do it too?
I got: I'm not good enough, it's too hard, I don't want to fail, change is scary, change is bad... The list goes on, but pretty much repeat itself. Did you get some of the same responses?
Notice that my answers start with self-esteem issues and turn to fear based responses. I believe I recognize that internalized fear-based voice. Do you recognize any voices from your childhood?
So, what do you do with that information? Well, I'm going to have to become more aware of the narration in my head, especially when I start to avoid tasks. Get some sunshine on the dark, unnoticed voices driving my behavior.
Will it be work? Undoubtedly, yes. Do I want success? Undoubtedly, yes. Marisa Peer gave good advice, sharing what she has noticed about the habits of successful people. Do what you don't want to do first, first thing, and get it out of the way. Makes sense, right?
You can do this! You are enough!