I just wanted to share with you a quick thought that came to my mind about saying "no"
As a practising parent, I very often have to say no to my children. I love them so much and it hurts like hell when I have to say no to them as if I sound like do not like them. And it creates resistance with them, as they just too stubborn and they do what they do not suppose to do and I repeat the no again and again... and the story ends up in tears on their side. Heartbreaking isn't it?
The thing is that we all hate to say no and reject someone. It can be interpreted as - I do not like you - which then undermines the relationships. So we end up saying yes, but at the bottom of our heart, we'd like to say - Hell, NO! Time and time again I see this at the workplace where colleagues discuss a matter of urgency and the colleague who is lower ranked - means the employee - says yes to the higher ranked - the boss - only to avoid conflict.
We need to realise the importance of it and we have to practice this. It is hard, to begin with, but with a little practice, we get better at it. Like Steve Jobs, founder of Apple said in his book: "I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things."
In the next article, I am going to elaborate on tricks on how you can start saying no without creating tension.
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