If I could chose to be remembered as any one thing, wise would be it. Wisdom is something I've always really respected in others. Being raised in a church I heard the story of King Solomon, who when God came to him and offered him anything his heart desired, he chose wisdom and God saw this as the ultimate thing to ask for.
My search for wisdom and peace started a few years ago when I went through a trauma. I wanted to heal myself and find happiness after what had happened. It turned into this quest for inner peace and prosperity so I could escape from the future of hardship I was creating for myself.
I wanted to learn about how to take control of my life and share this knowledge with others. First I had to find out though, how do we create wisdom? I came across an article by Dr Margaret Plews-Ogan of the University of Virginia and everything she says resonates with me so well, only she has been able to make concrete what has sort of been buzzing around in my head, so I’m going to refer to her essay in this. You can read it by clicking here.
Wisdom is not given, you have to gain it yourself
You can read books and surround yourself with wise people, but wisdom is a deep understanding of knowledge you have gained from your own experiences. Who we define as wise is different for each of us but intelligence is one part of it. People that most of us perceive as wise usually possess qualities such as:
- a well thought out perspective
- the ability to see things from other people’s point of view
- and the ability to reflect and rise above their own opinions
Certainly reading books will help you understand and interpret things that are going on in your life. We don’t have to reinvent the wheel and people have sort and taught how to achieve a deeper understanding for thousands of years like Buddha and Confucius.
An experience is only bad if you choose to remember it that way
Well that’s what I was told and I don’t think that’s completely true. I don't think I'll ever look back at some things and say they were great but you can learn. I still get very angry if I focus on some things in the past but making the conscious decision to objectively think about a bad experience can be empowering if you take action to ensure it doesn't happen again.
Thinking deeply is hard work but trust me when I say it’s worth it. I have really learnt that things are not black and white and clear cut. I learnt that grey areas can be more dangerous because we seem to accept them or think they are not so bad.
That was a big lesson for me!
If Wisdom can only be gained from life, how do we help it along?
At the end of it all there is so much information out there to help you with personal development it’s just fantastic. Any time you want to succeed though, immersing yourself in a particular atmosphere and surrounding yourself with mentors and like-minded people who want to achieve the same goal is just so huge.
It’s a massive cultural myth that we have to do things alone and be self-made. There is no such thing as self-made, everyone is just building on what someone before them has given them. Some things I will be working on and if this is your goal as well I hope you will join me in:
- Cultivating Gratitude and Appreciation for what I have
- Learning how to quietly reflect and think effectively
- Be morally and spiritually grounded
- Helping others – which is really the ultimate happiness I believe
If you want wisdom you have to make a conscious choice to seek it and as I always say, life is a marathon so just enjoy the ride. You are never going to know everything and it’s something we need to find peace in. How many years were people certain the world was flat because they didn’t possess the technology to know differently?
Be open to new ideas and information because we live in such an exciting time open to so many new possibilities for learning. If you want to join me on this journey as I look for answers to create a better more fulfilling life for myself and others then please check out my Facebook Page as that's where I'll be most active.
So tell me, who is someone you consider wise? A parent or grandparent? A public figure? Let me know in the comments :)
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