This blog outlines five reasons why you may consider becoming more resilient. Resilient people understand that setbacks happen and that sometimes life is hard and painful. They still experience the emotional pain, grief, and sense of loss that comes after a tragedy, but their mental outlook allows them to work through such feelings and recover.
We all go through some tough times in life. Normal ups and downs are to be expected in every walk of life and in every profession. Sometimes we feel like the pressure is mounting up. Yet when lots things go wrong at once it is hard to look at the bright side and we beat ourselves up. In fact many people begin to feel bad and experience a sense of overwhelm. Some students experience the same feelings in school. If a group of students do not do particularly well in a test or exam, they may give up and stop trying altogether. It is human nature to do what is easiest or enjoyable to us and not spend our energy in something that seems unattainable. We may even begin to make excuses for ourselves and think that it is too difficult. We may start blaming ourselves and others around us. This further reinforces our sense of failure and avoidance, which we then dwell on in a negative cycle.
Thankfully there are ways to make ourselves more resilient and teach others around us how to do the same by example. Here are my top five reasons to become more resilient.
1.You bounce back quicker. Bouncing back means when things go wrong or get difficult, you have developed the ability and support to bounce back even when faced with adversity. This can mean anything from living in poverty to disability, an illness or family issues.
2. You spend more time dwelling on your strengths. This helps you take stock of what is good in your life and what you are grateful for. By reflecting closely on the positive aspects in your life, you begin to appreciate more of what you are capable of. You realise your potential and this helps you to gain clarity on the steps you need to take to move forward.
3. Self soothing- Resilient people forgive themselves the first time that they tried something new. They try again and again persistently. The benefit here for you is better physical health and improved long term mental health. You start to spend time to look after yourself better and cope with stressful situations easier, knowing deep down that the things that are bothering you are just a temporary glitch.
4. You develop a sense of mindfulness. You begin to entertain the idea of alternative endings and dream on to make those dreams a reality. You become aware of your feelings and change your thought patterns, so that you know you are becoming the winner; forever the hero and always persist find a solution to the problem.
5. You focus on the lesson and not the mistake. Just like the first loaf of bread I ever baked , the first time I played Mindcraft with my sons and lost, or the first time I took a driving lesson, we quickly begin to try and figure out what went wrong and start to put it right.
Each time you try, you get better and better. Even if it is simply small improvements. We begin to set realistic goals for ourselves. As we face difficulties perhaps we refuse to accept that we are a victim of our circumstances and focus instead on what we have the power to change. Those small improvements accumulate and before you know it, you've climbed a mountain!
As a Teacher, I see it as my personal responsibility to teach my students about becoming more resilient, celebrating their successes and building up their confidence. As an Education Consultant, I strongly believe that schools and colleges should be reinforcing the ethos of resilience. Personally I am always in the search for a new challenge, so I joined a community of online professionals that put me through my paces. Each course required my full attention and I had to put into practice everything I had learnt. Soon I had my own online businesses running and new Marketing skills. It took will-power and resilience but in the end it enabled me to reach my goal: Time Freedom. I can now work from my laptop, whenever I choose, to make a passive income from the internet. This was purely so that I could spend more time with my young family. Perhaps you could do the same.