Balancing your brain

by Phil Valentine Self Improvement
The weather was typically British, one minute beautiful sunshine and the next rain and thunder. In the middle of this unpredictable weather 3 planes left London Luton airport on direct flights to Glasgow, but only one of these planes would arrive in Glasgow with a cabin full of happy passengers. All planes left in good weather but all three encountered storms along the route.  So why did 1 of the 3 planes arrive with happy passengers?  Well that was down to the ...
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Who is forgiveness for?

by Phil Valentine Self Improvement
I was driving along the dual carriageway on my way home from work and I hadn’t had a great day. I wasn’t in the best of moods and the mannerisms of some of the drivers around me weren’t helping. Seriously, I thought, what’s the rush? Do you really have to risk my life so you can get home to your TV a few minutes earlier? Then came the truck! A full length 40ft truck driving inches from the back of my car.  As we ...
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The Resolution Checklist

by Phil Valentine Self Improvement
When it came to new year's resolutions, for years I followed this pattern: Wait for New Year's Day. Make my new year's resolutions. Not write them down. Start on the 1st of January with high expectations. By the end of January realise that I'm only a 5th of the way through. Give up & decide I'll try again next year. Wait for New Year's day.  Can you see how much is wrong with this picture?   Firstly, I'd have done so much better if I had started planning my new ...
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How to take control

by Phil Valentine Relationships, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
  Amongst my earlier blogs, I discussed the story of the old lady with a beautiful garden, who awoke one morning to find her garden filled with litter.  The point of the article being that responsibility does not equal blame.   But why is this so key?  Why is it so important that we separate these two ideas and leave ourselves free to take responsibility without the burden of blame?  It's important because every single model, every single approach which you can take ...
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Touch of the Present

by Phil Valentine Relationships, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
  It was 4am on a Friday morning and my week had not been a good one.   The local theatre where I had been volunteering as a technician for the last 20 years had previously announced that they were in trouble financially, and two days earlier with no warning they announced they would not be opening the next day.   Productions that we had been working on were cancelled.  Several schools, full of kids who had been rehearsing for months were left with nowhere to perform ...
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It's not true

by Phil Valentine Relationships, Health and Fitness, Self Improvement
In September 2016 I had the chance to spend 7 days with David Key at Knebworth House, just north of London, studying Neuro-Linguistic Programming.  A course which lead to my certification as a practitioner of NLP.  The course was great fun, and all the students and tutors were wonderful people to spend time with.   However, at the end of the course, after we had finally got our head around the foundations of NLP and received our certifications, David said something that ...
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You're not to blame

by Phil Valentine Relationships, Self Improvement, Writing and Speaking
One of the words you will hear most from the best mentors in the world is the word 'responsibility'. The act of taking responsibility is one of those master keys that opens the doors to massive success, effectiveness, and abundance.   Yet for many this word brings a chill to the spine and immediately triggers a deeply unpleasant feeling.   Why?  Well, perhaps it's because many people automatically interpret this word to equal 'blame', and blame points a finger squarely at us and says, 'you did this'.   In reality though, the meanings of the ...
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The symbols that we call words

by Phil Valentine Self Improvement
  What picture comes into your head when I say the word "apple"?   A yummy crunchy green apple? Maybe a red one? Maybe a fresh apple hanging on a tree? Maybe it's rotten? Maybe it's in a bowl? Maybe it's the flavour of apple separate from any physical form? Maybe a juice? Maybe it's a type of tree? ........or maybe it's an electronics company that makes tablets, phones, and computers?   The point is this, there are many different things that could potentially come into people's heads when we say "apple".   There is a big gap between the word ...
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The key to changing your life for the better

by Phil Valentine Self Improvement
It’s funny how occasionally you find little nuggets of wisdom in the most bizarre places. Being a bit of a geek I love a good bit of Science Fiction but when I sat down to watch Michael Bay’s 2007 film “Transformers”, I certainly didn’t expect to find any nuggets of wisdom in the 144 minute story about giant intelligent robots arriving on earth. Turns out I was wrong. I was sat watching the scene where a confused Sam Witwicky (Shia LaBeouf) and Mikaela Banes (Megan Fox) first attempt to ...
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