Have you ever had those moments where you absolutely do not understand someone's point of view and they can't understand yours?
written by Danny
This is such a simple thing yet causes some of the biggest problems.
- In 2011 I found myself with a serious girlfriend.
- She's Colombian and I am Australian
- She was 18 and I was 21
- This all took place in Australia (my home country and foreign land for her)
Well at first as the honeymoon period always is, everything was going really well, understanding between us was perfect. We had a ball together.
Now we were both young and very proud of our heritage and where we came from.
So as I started seeing her more and more I would see her interacting with her family and she would always be speaking Spanish.
I asked her one day, "seeing that both you and your mother are taking lessons for English, why not speak to each other in English and you'll speed up your progress.
She replied in a pretty firm tone, "I will never speak to my mother in English".
Now I couldn't grasp this at all, it really put somewhat of a wedge in between us, not for the fact that she wouldn't speak to her in English but that it seemed to me as if she was shunning my native language.
So little by little as the relationship unfolded we were going to Colombian festivals, listening to her music, eating food from her country. Don't get me wrong, our relationship wasn't 100% based all around her culture but towards the end it was intensifying.
Where am I going with all this, you ask?
Well as some of you already know, I moved to Spain to open a restaurant.
In doing so I have had to fully submerge myself in a culture I was unfamiliar with, customs that seemed crazy for me. Learn a new language and life for that matter.
So all of a sudden I had so much more clarity into what my girlfriend was feeling and going through.
In this happening I had gained so much more perspective into something only a few years before I couldn't understand fully. I of course understood where my girlfriend was coming from but lacked the true understanding.
Situations like this one can be applied to so many other areas of life if you think about it.
- Work environments
So there you have it, a little blog on Misunderstanding... The root of all wars
Danny Sirvent L I F E S T Y L E 21
(the Lifestyle Clique)