Never a failure, always a lesson is an approach that shows you that it never is the end of the road. Everyone fails in life. At one point or another in your existence, you are going to fail. It is inevitable! And although it hurts each time you do, it helps build you up into the person you are today.
Are you more worry about the fear of failure rather than the failure itself? How many times in your life have you failed at something only to discover another opportunity? What can you do to change your outlook?
The problem is that most people associate failure with complete defeat. I know, because I cannot even count the times I failed in the past. There are points in my life where I failed at everything. I got to be a failure in relationships, business and even life in general. At the time, I felt a sense of total and absolute defeat, yet it was a lesson in disguise.
You have to realize that all successful people who live or have ever lived did fail the most times. So, through your failures, you understand that you learn some valuable lessons. Of course, no one likes to suffer through a myriad of failures which, sometimes happen, one after another.
“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” – Steve Jobs
Failure Becomes a Learning Lesson
So follow, explore, do what is in your heart and do not let anything, especially failure, stop you. At any point in your life, you should never have to regret your failures. You might regret some choices, but again, there were also lessons. Some people never learn and make the same mistakes over and over again.
While failure hurts at the time, it is all part of your life’s design. Over the years, you used a celestial chisel which shaped and created the living sculpture you are today. When you fail, you grow and mature. You achieve new understandings and perspectives on life, love, business, money, relationships, and people.
Therefore, failure becomes wise lessons. You are then forced to bridge gaps you had not thought about before and suddenly; you have to connect the dots. A typical example about this is that a relationship you failed in but which led you to someone else better and more fabulous.
Failure Does Hurt
Regardless of what happened in your life, the sweetness afterward was a much better result. Failure is also an integrant part of life. Since the dawn of time, our ancestors went through failures, and that is how we evolved. In a way, it is all a part of a natural selection and the grand design of things on this planet.
However, you might be going through failure at this moment, and you do not understand why. And yes, failure hurts. In truth, I agree, the pain can run so deep, that at times, you question your very life. But let me remind you that you are not alone. It is not the end of the road, and that is a promise!
And during my encounters with failure, I learned some significant lessons. I know how hard it is. It is not easy to move through and past failure. I feel for you if you are going through it at this moment, but I ask you to be strong because it will end!
Learning Lessons is Often Hard
So you have to remember that the lessons you learn through failure are the most valuable lessons you could get in life. We all feel that when we fail, it feels like the end of the line. It might even break you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
But there is light at the end of the tunnel. Although I went through some rough times in my life, failure always taught me that there is no beauty without struggle. And I learned who my real friends were after each successive failure. Somehow, failing acts as a filter, so to speak, for false friends.
Sadly enough, when you are on the top ladder of success, everyone wants to be around you. But, when you fail, most of those so-called friends run and disappear into thin air. You feel betrayed. Yet, real friends care about you, not because of how successful you are, but because of who you are. Therefore, true friends will be there for you no matter what.
Failure Leads to Success
You and I are living in an instant gratification society. Most people want things, and they want them right now. Often, they act like children because their mind behaves on the pleasure principle.
But, when failure comes your way, you start to realize that, good things, do not happen or come overnight.
And so, you have to work to achieve your dreams and realize your goals. The only problem with that is that when goals are new, they are exciting. But after some time, the grind and the routine become far more real. It gets hard, and you get bored, tired, fed up, and you return to your old ways. And then you feel like a failure again.
However, when you can overcome that natural tendency, it is when the magic begins to happen. Not right away, but in time along the trust in the process. It is but a natural progression. The more times you experience failure, the more you become passionate about your mission or calling. It then becomes far more real and concrete.
Never a Failure Always a Lesson
So, failure is only considered as a failure when you quit. My advice to you is never to give up. And it is so true that when you believe deeply enough in yourself, you can succeed. Thus, learn never to give up, no matter what the situation or what others think.
In fact, no matter how many times people despise you, laugh at you, walk all over you, or just ignore you, keep pushing forward. And it does not matter if you progress just a little or make a small step each day. In the end what matters is that you make some progress at all. Just do not ever stop!
As a result, you grow to be so passionate about what you are doing that you can just taste success coming your way. So if failure touches you in any way, remind yourself that it is not the end but a new beginning. The lesson here is the chance to pick yourself back up again and try again until you reach your desires.
Sergei VanBellinghen, Founder & CEO of First Class Lifestyle, currently a Personal Growth & Success Expert, using self-development techniques to help you succeed and have a better life. Visit my website at sergeivanbellinghen.com