Why you should never settle for less than you deserve is a good reason to refuse to live an ordinary existence. Your dreams transform into a belief in yourself and your abilities. It is a journey of ever constant evolution toward the goals in your life. Suddenly, the impossible develops into the possible.
But why do people choose to give in instead of struggling to get better opportunities? What about your life? Are you ready to keep going when things get hard? Or do you settle down for less?
So many people settle for ordinary in many aspects of their lives on a daily basis. They accept jobs they hate, deal with friends who let them down and let their relatives get away with wrongdoings. And if they do settle in life, it is because much too often, fear paralyzes and holds them back.
Furthermore, people suffer tremendous amounts of self-doubt. They are unable to believe they are good enough. There are always better options out there, but so many people have low self-esteem, which prevents them from understanding they can get better.
“When it’s obvious that the goal cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” – Confucius
When Reality Gets in Your Way
Those words are maybe the best piece of advice you are ever going to get. Write them down. Burn or tattoo them onto your soul. Once you set a goal and decided in your life that you want to make come true, do not settle for less or let anything stop you from reaching it.
And yes, as you go forward, the reality is going to get in your way. There will be an inevitable slew of obstacles coming at you. But when it gets hard and you think that the path you take is not going to lead you where you want to go; do not abandon.
Rather than giving up on what you said you were going to do, find a different path. And you have to make that the cornerstone of your identity, in refusing to settle for less, bend or be broken by challenges or obstacles.
Never Settle or Change Your Goal
So instead, you rise to those challenges, doing whatever you have to, and devising any plan to find a way through it. Once that becomes your reaction, your life will change. Do not change what you believe in or your dream, but simply find another path in your creativity or someone that can help you.
You have to do whatever it takes to get on the other side of it and build the life you want to see. But if your reaction is to change your goal, to make it easier by settling for less than whom you can be, you never are going to have something worth having.
“The way you conquer self-doubt is by doing things that make you uncomfortable.” – Jesse Itzler
Fear the Biggest Enemy
But what is it that stops someone? The reason most people adjust their goals, settle for less, lower the bar or make it easier is because they are afraid. They are scared of what it says about them, thinking they cannot accomplish it, and even fearful of dreaming big.
And yes, most people are terrified of change, failure and even taking risks. This is one of the main reasons many of them settle for less in life. Yet, it is not about improbable goals or realization. It is about changing the things you can to be happy, not simply drifting along in life and complaining.
So, it is far easier to settle for less than it is to get out of your comfort zone. You can create endless excuses to justify the reasons but it results in you looking back with regret. Then, with a somewhat bruised ego, wishing you did not settle. But you must believe that inside, you have what it takes to persevere.
If You Settle You Loose
When something seems impossible, do not change it to something possible but rather find another way around it. There is always a path to make it or no one would have discovered anything in this world. Anyone, even you, can overcome things that were impossible yesterday.
As the generations pass, the level of patience is declining. People lack willpower and sadly make the mistake of picking the first option offered to them. It also applies to dreams, goals, and desires such as getting on a new career path. Things worth having take a lot of time and effort, which most people do not want to work for.
And although something may not be what someone really wants, it is often acceptable and becomes a habit. It then gets more comfortable to sustain that routine than to challenge oneself. Yet, you have to fight through all the obstacles that lie between where you are and where you want to be.
How to Never Settle for Less
Therefore, the minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for. In general, people are lazy. They do not want to make too much of an effort, even if they are unhappy with their current situation. So, they lack the necessary willpower, self-belief, confidence, and ambition to make it.
And many times, people are so frustrated in life. They feel that settling for less will help them create the happiness they want. Yet, people constantly complain about their current situations, but do nothing to change it. Only the ones who are crazy enough to think they can; do.
So, ordinary or average is a place where you often get stuck not knowing how to escape. It is only by changing to a growth mindset instead of keeping a fixed one. In order to change, you must think differently, get rid of what is not working, learn from people with such mindset, create a plan of action and set that strategy in motion.
Why You Should Never Settle
And so, that is the key to accomplishment. The difference between the possible and the impossible is to understand that you should never settle for less. So believe you can get good at anything you set your mind to. Life is way too short to settle for anything less than what you truly want.
Therefore, the only way to reach your potential is to stop settling. You become your thoughts, so stop putting limits on yourself and do not waste your precious time. The moment you begin to settle in the most important roles of your life is the moment you begin to die a slow death.
So make that the pillar upon which all of your identity stands. And when times get hard, just go harder and never settle for less. Once you have the attitude that you deserve the best in life, you begin to get what you want, go places, meet people and wonderful things will come your way.
If you ever feel like talking, you can book a personal talk with me. I look forward to our conversation.
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Sergei VanBellinghen, Founder & CEO of First Class Lifestyle, currently a Personal Growth & Success Expert, using self-development techniques to help you succeed and have a better life. Visit my website at sergeivanbellinghen.com