[k uh- mit-m uhnt]
the act of committing.
the state of being committed.
the act of committing, pledging, or engaging oneself.
a pledge or promise; obligation: We have made a commitment to pay our bills on time.
engagement; involvement: They have a sincere commitment to religion.
Hi it's Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a "Recovery from Addiction Series", If not read on:
When I was thinking about writing this blog, I was wondering what can I use as an example of commitment & it was right beneath my nose all the time. My young 22 year old nephew is my biggest hero at the moment, as he has made it to 2 semi finals & 2nd reserve in the final of the 100m Men's Butterfly at the 2018 Commonwealth Games. What an inspiration he is & what a commitment he has made in his young life.
When he was 8 years old and first started swimming competitively, he did say that his dream was to one day swim in the Olympics. This he did when he competed in Rio in 2016. He only made the heats then, but he had achieved his dream & his goal. Since 2016 he has gone from strength to strength and has broken numerous national records and trains & competes with some of the best swimmers in the World. His goal now is to compete in Tokyo in 2020 Olympics, and he will do it.
Whenever I watch competitive sports events on television, like the Commonwealth Games or Olympics, I don't see exactly what the athletes have gone through to get where they are now. None of them just arrived, like my nephew, they worked their arses off for most of their young lives to reach the standard, caliber & fitness they are at now. This didn’t just happen overnight, it took a ton load of commitment. When I was 22 my claim to fame was falling all over the place in a drunken stupor.
Recovery is like anything else in life and if you do not commit, you will not achieve. It is as simple as that. Commitment takes time and effort and true grit. You have to be determined & totally consistent. We all have different levels of consistency and determination, but it does take a full commitment to stay in recovery.
Before anything else you have to take 100% full responsibility for yourself. Doing this will make it impossible to blame thus giving away your responsibility again. Even if you are getting it tough or feel that things are overwhelming, rather than feel sorry for yourself, ask yourself what you can do about it. For every problem, there is a solution. I'm affiliate marketing and that takes commitment & when the internet of my laptop start to play up & I'm tempted to give up, I have to just suck it up and get on with it.
You have to open your mind, take on board and practise what is suggested to you, with all your body and soul. Even if you initially don't agree with the advice you are given, listen anyway & do it anyway. Even reading through "Recovery from Addiction Series" is a commitment.
Ask yourself these questions to rank your own level of commitment
Commiting to your Values, Beliefs & Desires, what are you willing to put in to achieve your goals?
You have to have SMART recovery goals, which you know that you can achieve and you must do your best to achieve them. break them down to smaller chunks to make them more manageable.
How much are you willing to sacrifice?
All old attitudes, behaviours, people, places & situations all have to be let go or at least suspended for the mean time. This is hard to do especially if it is habitual or if it involves detaching from family members or even relocating. "You cannot move forward if you are holding onto the past"
How have you been commited in the past?
When I was in early recovery, my biggest fear was "How was I going to maintain recovery, I've never seen anything to fruition in my life". I could not afford though to beat myself up, I had to brainstorm to see if there was anything I had commited to in the past. Off course there was, we all have, being an alcoholic although very negative did take a lot of commitment to maintain.
Are you willing to ask for help or go it alone?
We are social beings, that is our nature, we have families, communities, societies. In light of this, going alone is totally absurd. Everyone needs help, especially people in early recovery.
Do you tend to lose interest if your goals aren’t met fast enough?
They say "Patience is a virtue", that is true but addicts only know instant gratification, so impatience is a huge character defect. As hard as it may be, patience has to be practiced here. I know I still get impatient in ques and traffic jams, & I'm 15 years in recovery. Atleast I am aware of my impatience, so I can challenge it. If you have faith that everything will work out, you don't have to worry about the how, just wait for it.
Do you take on too much too soon?
One step at a time, one day at a time, one thing at a time. FOCUS. Do not try to take on too much at any one time or you will be overwhelmed.
My next article is on Change, stay tuned.
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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me, but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.
I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through on line marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7 day video series to watch.