“Having a baby changes your life…” who agrees with me? Yep… I can see a few raised hands… But having a child does not mean that our life as a person has ended and now we are just to be known as “MUM” forever and ever. In this post, I will share with you why I think that becoming a mum does not mean giving up on yourself but on the contrary, it could be the beginning of discovering your true potential.
Before having my children, I was, like the vast majority of people, working the good old 9-5… It never really even occurred to me that there could be another way… Every time I heard of someone creating a life for themselves I always thought: “…Hmmm… probably they come from a rich family…Who in the real world can afford to follow their dreams?”
My first son
When I fell pregnant with my first son, I still had that mentality, and only 9 months after the little one was born I had to return to work. You can imagine the sadness and the tears (both mine and his, on that first day at nursery and my first day back in the office).
I could not see another way… in our life, we have to work… everyone knows that right? But deep down I started to realise that spending time in the office rather than with my son, paying for somebody else to be with him and basically “do my job as a mum” was wrong…
My second son
By the time I got pregnant with my second son, I knew that there must have been another way… I started my maternity leave quite early due to some health issues and in this time, whilst I was growing and blooming (to say the least…) I started to rediscover myself.
I started following free short courses on the internet, several Universities offer short free courses (a couple of weeks) on the most interesting and thoughts provoking subjects, I have done one on medicine through time (reading about how the Romans dealt with their newborn wasn’t exactly pleasant whilst heavily pregnant…) and my next one would have been about Music-psychology…
I joined a pregnancy yoga class and met other mums to be, it was lovely to be able to talk about common aches and pains and share tips on how to “survive” pregnancy… The deep relaxation from the classes carried on at home when I started practicing meditation… I did not do anything fancy, no candles, cushions, etc… (you can do it if you want… nothing wrong with that…!) I just closed my eyes and relaxed. The realisation that all I had to do was sit there, doing nothing, allowing all the worry and doubtful thoughts to just slip away from me was immense… Then baby was born…
Lack of sleep… getting to grip with breastfeeding (again… you think when you do it once you then remember… no…not in my case…it felt like I had to start from scratch again…), dealing with the older son trying to kiss the new-born every single second… yes… it was a bit manic… then, to top it all up, my husband got made redundant and we had to move…
This is when I realised that there must be more to life than work your socks off for someone else and then be told: “Thank you very much for your hard work, however, we don’t need you anymore…goodbye!”
There are people out there who do what they love and make a living out of it! That sounds much better to me…! I knew I wanted to change, I knew then that I wanted to find out more, I wanted to learn more on how to discover and pursue my dreams…
I started scouting the internet, I learned about self-development, self-love, gratitude, Law of attraction, I watched the movie “The Secret” and it all started making sense… Our purpose in life is to be HAPPY! Not to work 9-5 to make somebody else rich…
I realised I wanted to start an online business reaching out to mums like me who are in the process of “waking up to their full potential”, mums who have more to give, mums who want to show the world that just because they have beautiful children, it does not mean they are not able to still realise their dreams! After all, like Beyonce says: “Who runs the world?” I say: “MUMS”!
What are your thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments below!
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