The Cambridge English Dictionary describes Gratitude as 1 The feeling of being grateful
2 A strong feeling of appreciation to someone or something for what the person has done to help.
Robert Emmons: one of the worlds leading experts on gratitude describes the benefits of gratitude as
- Gratitude allows the celebration of the present, gratitude allows the appreciation of something or someone, with gratitude we participate rather than spectate.
- Grateful people are more stress-resilient gives people more perspective.
- Gratitude blocks toxic emotions ( Envy resentment regret depression ).
- Gratitude strengthens social ties and self-worth.
Dr Maria Church states the benefits of gratitude as :
- Greater optimism
- Improves feelings of connection in times of loss and crisis
- Increased self-esteem
- Strengthens the immune system
Some Questions...... 1 Can gratitude be learned?
2 If so what results would one see.
Answers 1 Yes So how do we do this, how do we implement gratitude in our everyday lives. I believe to do this we have to retrain our brain, to be able to see and identify the wonder and possibilities that lie ahead of us each day. One way of doing this is by using a gratitude journal by writing down five things you are grateful for each day, the process of doing this daily helps you to feel and behave more positively by focusing on all the things you are grateful for.
2 Gratitude is not about you, let me repeat this gratitude is not about you. Gratitude comes from acknowledging all the good things other people are doing for you, usually at some cost to themselves, looking at the wonder of nature, appreciating the wonders around us, being thankful is to be thoughtful, in expressing gratitude it usually allows us to get on with people a lot better, usually less depressed within our selves more resilient to challenge and usually allows us to achieve more.
Gratitude, if we let it, has the power to change our lives, it enhances and softens our personality, it helps not to take people for granted the more grateful you are the more grateful you'll be. Expressing our thanks can really help improve our overall sense of well being. Studies show that grateful people are more agreeable, more open, and less neurotic (McCullough et al 2002).
Gratitude also helps us deal with negative or disempowering thoughts, emotions, or past experiences you may be chewing over. By being grateful for all your experiences this allows you to be in the moment, allowing whatever you are experiencing, just to be, not to put any attachment to it. as you observe it without judgment. Being grateful for this self-awareness allows you to reframe the meaning of these experiences and lets you release them with gratitude. Any time you reframe something negative or unpleasant into something that gives power to you, you are in control versus being a victim.
Opening yourself to experiencing gratitude and intentionally expressing it to others benefits everyone.
When Ben Stein, Lawyer,writer.actor, economist, was asked, How to get rich quick he said,
" I can't tell you anything that in a few minutes, will tell you how to be rich. But I can tell you how to feel rich, which is far better, let me tell you first hand. than being rich, be grateful Its the only totally reliable get-rich-quick scheme."
Gratitude brings emotional prosperity, if not financial prosperity.
(Albert Schweitzer ) says its the secret to life if you discover this you have discovered what it means to truly live, to be grateful. He also goes on to say. You must learn to understand the secret of gratitude. It is more than just so-called virtue. It is revealed to you as a mysterious law of existence. In obedience to it, we have to fulfil our destiny.