My gratification to my mum who has created me and her mum who has created, without you both, I would never have existed in this world. I thank you for all the life experience and knowledge and the power to create to provide the space for each and everyone to express anything here. You would never know until you start and the end is already created. Thank you for all the amazing life, I am so grateful!
How much does family influence the decisions we make and shape whats important and our values?
An example is when we share the things that are most important to us, to our children, they will follow in our footsteps. In our family, we follow a tradition of Lion Dance.
There is something very eerie about its connection to our ancestors more broadly because it is something we have shared through the ages. Similar to the hakka for Maori, it cannot be described. When the drum beats, your heart races, and its like a reminder that at some point we have all heard, seen and experienced the same thing. We are not different, we are all the same, through time and space.
My husband and his 9 brothers and sisters used to perform the Lion Dance amongst eachother as children. As an adult he continued to volunteer with the Chung Wah Society in Darwin, performing the Lion Dance and playing the gong or drums.
We would attend Chinese New Year without fail. I remember my children were mesmerised. There is a photo of my eldest daughter. I think she was about 4 years old in the newspaper with a lionhead sitting on a bench at the Chung Wah Society Temple and another with my husband leading the troupe down a main street of Darwin.
A few years ago now, when our son was twelve years old he wanted to join a Lion Dance Troupe. This is a traditional Chinese performance which is usually held at Chinese New Year. It cant be held any other time as it is a blessing for good luck. Our son was told he needed to join the Martial Arts Club before he could partake in a Lion Dance as the movements required are all related to the exercises taught at the club.
So he began and has been in the club for over ten years and has performed the Dance a countless number of times. He was fortunate to travel to China, and undertook an immersive 6 months training where he was up at 4am and training with the greatest masters. He tells us how he discovered a much deeper connection with Martial Arts and its connection to spirituality during this time.
Fast forward and our daughter has two sons, one of who is infatuated with anything to do with the Lion Dance!
Since he was 2 and a half years old, he has played with a small lion head given to him by his Aunty. Even before that he used to improvise and use a clothes basket or a cardboard box as a head. Beating a box or bongo drum, he imitated the sound of the beat played during a dance.
He would tie a piece of cloth (to act as the body) to whatever he was using as a Head, and force his brother or sister to go in the tail.
Now, he is a member of the same club as our son, and of course, has access to the real Lion heads and tails. He has started to perform playing all the musical instruments and is learning the steps for the Lion Dance.
The fun and laughter he has given us during this have been worth all the money in the world. Just as it was years ago with our son.
Life is like a box of chocolate and you do not know what you are going to get inside the chocolate!
Have fun and be inspired and imagine what would this take you. What are the things that are most important to you?