Do you have a mindset for victory!
Is your thinking taking you where you want to go!
As I continued my journey from failure to success, I spent a lot of time researching why I wasn't succeeding. I purchased lots of books on success, in fact I could make a fortune if I sold all the books I've bought on success in my life-time. But thats another story. I would spend hours on Youtube and Google trying to find whatever it was that I need to complete the puzzle. You see I knew there was something still missing. And I found something which has had a profound affect on my thinking, and my attitude to the pursuit of success and wealth creation.
If I said to you in order to be successful you need the right mindset what would immediatley spring to mind. Probably if you are like me I would say something like this.
- A positive mental attitude
- A can do approach to life
- High levels of motivation
- Embracing the laws of attraction etc etc
Now all of the above can help us achieve our dreams but there is an aspect of mindset that had completely eluded me and is now only just making the headlines in the field of personal development.
Let me pose a question: Do you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset.
How do you know!
Some of the characteristics of someone with a fixed mindset are:
- Avoids challenges
- Gives up easily
- Sees effort as fruitless or worse
- Ignores useful negative feedback
- Feels threatened by the success of others
"People with fixed mindsets are scared of challenges for fear that their deficiencies could be unmasked through it" If this sounds familiar don't worry you are not alone I was one of these but there is an answer and a way out of this mindset.
My personal story so far......
I have been looking to make money online/offline for a few years now. I would snap up any opportunity that promised easy money. Of course no money is made easily as I now realise but with mindset I had in the past I did not realise this.
I would start the new venture with great enthusiasm but when things got difficult, or results were not as expected - guess what I did- yes you've guessed it I QUIT! I quit because I had a mindset (fixed) which said "I don't have the talent, natural ability or intelligence to do this" so lets try something I else that will work for me. I would then justify my decision to quit to myself as to why it had not worked. Do any of these excuses sound familiar!
- The training was not good enough
- It takes too long to make any money
- This will never work anyway
- The guy selling this program was not making any money at this he was just selling his program to idiots like me.
- This isn't for me.
- I don't need to make any additional money anyway, I am happy with what I have.
I would justify the reasons for it not working to myself and then make some pathetic excuse to my family and friends why had quit. (If I told them I had even started at all). You see admitting that I'd failed again was too painful for my fragile ego. Thats's why excuses are so good - they are like pills which dull the pain. But worse still it can stop us from learning from the experience and moving forward.
You see my fixed mindset was saying to me "unless it is easy, comes naturally to me then it won't work for me" whereas a growth mindset is saying "You will make mistakes, at times it will be tough, but use the mistakes as feedback and you will learn and get better"
You see we all have the same raw material to work with "our brain". But how we apply it is our own personal choice." What I am trying to convey both to myself and you guys out there is that if we can change our fixed mindset to a growth mindset that is no limit to what we could achieve."
Some of the characteristics of somone with a growth mindset are:
- Embraces challenges
- Sees effort as the path to mastery
- Persists in the face of challenges
- Learns from criticism
- Finds lessons and inspiration in the success of others
To summarise the two mindsets:
People with fixed mindsets believe that intelligence and talent are fixed at birth and cannot be changed.
People with growth mindsets believe that intelligence and talent can be developed and improved.
So how we change from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset? I thought you would ask this question so let me explain something briefly about the brain itself. When you know this you will get excited because you will understand how your brain and therefore your thinking can change.. And how your life can change too!
Your Brain is Malleable!
- Your brain is like a muscle
- The more you exercise your brain the stronger it gets
- When you work hard, new connections are formed and YOU get smarter.
So as well as working hard what can you say to yourself to change your mindset from a fixed one to a growth one.
- Instead of saying "I'm not good at this" say "What am I missing"
- Instead of saying "I am great at this" say " I'm on the right track"
- Instead of saying "I give up" say "I'll use some of the strategies I learned
- Instead of saying "This is too hard" say "This may take time and effort"
- Instead of saying"I can't make this any better" say "I can always improve"
- Instead of saying"I made a mistake" say "Mistakes help me improve"
- Instead of saying"I'll never be as smart as so and so say "I am going to figure out what she does and try it.
The Three Letter Word to Empower You and Change Your Mindset is "YET"
Yes that is a simple but powerful word. Every time you catch your self saying "I am no good at something just add YET and this will empower your thinking.
Example: I am no good at marketing YET or I can't work it out YET
Changing your mindset from a fixed "can't do" to a growth "can do" will have powerful effects on your brain and make you smarter and more capable of transforming your life. Yes it takes effort but I find it exciting to know that what I am working on will make me smarter because thats just how it is. Simple really!
If you have found this useful then please share your thoughts with me and others. If you want to learn more about this fascinating subject Click Here and find out what Carol Dweck has to say!