"Fears are nothing more than a state of mind" - Napoleon Hill
We are born with TWO fears:
1. Fear of falling
2. Fear of loud noises
As we grow up, we learn other fears from our parents, teachers, friends and families.
The majority of our society lives on fear, and most of those fears are only perceived.
When you face your fears and understand fear for what it is, you can use that knowledge to take control of your life.
Consider these facts:
Fear is natural.
It keeps us safe.
Fear isn’t fundamentally bad nor good.
The decisions we make, the activities we participate and the relationships we choose in are all within our power.
Embrace Your Fear
You’ve probably heard of Michael Jordan's story of getting cut from his high school basketball team. He wasn’t good enough to hold a roster spot with the varsity team.
Jordan used this fear of failure to improve every part of this game. The idea of failing could be one of the greatest turning points in any human being's life.
Michael worked passionately hard and it paid off because he became a better player and achieve his goal of playing college basketball. Jordan became the greatest basketball player — and perhaps athlete — of all time.
In her late 20s, J. K. Rowling the author and creator of the celebrated Harry Potter book series has progressed from living on state benefits to being the world's first billionaire author.
She was on welfare benefits, heartbroken, divorced, beaten down and with her life falling apart. So, Rowling decided to do what she does best to lift herself out of misfortune and failure.
She began writing. She used the fear of ending up homeless and broke to motivate her to creative heights most of us could only imagine.
The rest, as they say, is history. Fear of failure serves as a great motivator — we desire to improve our situation by refusing to accept the status quo.
Know Your Particular Fear
Identifying your fears is the first step to stopping feeding them or allowing them to control you.
What is holding you back? Do you have a particular fear that is blocking creating a quality lifestyle?
In July 2017, I thought I was ready to start my online business; I got very enthusiastic about it. At last, all I could see all of the dreams and aspirations becoming a reality.
But as soon as I joined, my husband's total hip operation was scheduled, and I am his caregiver, we had to do some preparations for it, not able to dedicate the time I wanted to my training.
However, by going through this situation, I could recognise a pattern in myself.
In the past, I started a couple of businesses, but I didn't succeed at them because I stopped. I always give myself a lot of excuses about why it didn't work out. I blamed the situation or others about my failure.
Even though I didn't continue with those businesses, I carried on with my personal development and thanks to it; I can now identify the fears that keep holding me back.
What about yourself? Can you identify the fear that is stopping you to create a quality lifestyle?
Awareness of your fear/s is the first step to face your fears and deal them.
Eckhart Tolle, in this book, on page 100, A New Earth Create A Better Life says:
"Be alert. Are some of the thoughts that go through your mind the internalised voice of your father or mother, saying perhaps something like, You are not good enough. You will never amount to anything," or some other judgement or mental position?
If there is Awareness in you, you will be able to recognise that voice for what it is: an old thought, conditioned by the past. If there is Awareness in you, you no longer need to believe in every thought you think. It is an old thought, no more. Awareness means Presence, and only Presence can dissolve the unconscious part in you."
We All Have A Choice:
Either fearlessly seize the day to get what makes your heart sing. OR feed the fear and continue to be hunted by mediocrity
To overcome fear, we need to take charge of our thoughts, feelings and decisions.
The most common cause of fear that we experience is the fear of failure, which often sabotages all hope for success.
Because of our fear, we let opportunities go. We are so afraid of failure that we get almost paralysed when it comes to taking any chances at all
Fear Feeds Regret
This is so true. I stopped my previous businesses because of fear of failure and that is what I got, failure.
Through the years, I have been working on my belief system, which has helped me to build the confidence to start my online business.
Only this time, I committed that nothing was going to stop me. Even though I am a full-time carer of my husband, and one of my sons has Multiple Sclerosis, my time is limited.
But when there is a will there is a way. The process has been slow, but this time, I am embracing my fears.
"What you are afraid to do is a clear indication of the next thing you need to do." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
No doubt, your friends and family have their doubts - but as you are getting more and more belief in yourself, you will find they are respecting your choices.
Fear was holding back from learning how to start my online business, so instead of continuing on that trend of thought, I am saying to myself:
"I am setting up an online business to create a quality lifestyle which will provide a sustainable income from the internet and finally become self-sufficient.
Learning how to market anything online is a new experience, a new education, and a new direction for me.
I believe I can do it, it is taking me longer than expected, but this is something I have wanted to do for years; this time I won't give up."
Strategies That Work To Overcome Fear
1. Surround yourself with positive, encouraging, supportive people. I have found these qualities with the Six Figure Mentors Community.
2. If your fear revolves money and you have strong feelings about the subject of money. It is highly possible that it took seed in you when you were little. It was one you unintentionally adopted.
It is of value for you to become aware of how you are really thinking and, more importantly, feelings about money.
Begin by identifying how you want to feel, or be.
Offer better feeling thoughts, tell a different story, look for positive aspects about the subject of what you really do want.
3. Meditating for 20-30 minutes each day helps calm your mind. It is a lovely, subtle way to face your fears.
You will see other self-love and creative benefits in meditation. Simply sit still in a private space of your own.
- there are many apps to choose from (Calm, Headspace, Awakened Mind), or
- search for meditation music or how to focus your awareness on Youtube or
- buy a learn to Meditate course.
4. Journal each day to touch base with your thoughts, experiences, emotions and reflections.
I am finding that spending 10 minutes every morning, focusing on how I want my day to go gives my brain a tangible or visual opportunity to process things differently.
- what you’re grateful for
- what you love about yourself
- write positive aspects about different people, situations, opportunities
- what your purpose in life may be
- what you want to achieve (even if you have no idea how you’ll achieve it at the moment)
5. Read More - the more you read, the more you understand, and the more you accept.
You will learn a new variety of strategies to implement yourself and soak up everything that is relevant to you and your fears.
Go to Google and search for 'ways to overcome fear' or 'how to face your fears'
Only 8 per cent of your worries are worth concerning yourself about. Ninety-two per cent are pure fog with no substance at all - Earl Nightingale
Earl Nightingale of Nightingale Conant (World Leaders in Personal Development) says:
The studies conclude that 85% of what we worry about, or fear, NEVER materializes.
And of the 15% of fears that do happen, the situation is never as bad as what people imagined. We, humans, are resilient and deal with crises far better than we ever imagine.
In fact, of the 15% of research subjects who fears happened, 79% of them discovered they could manage the crisis better than they expected, OR the predicament helped them learn a worthwhile lesson.
Conversely, we can also manufacture optimism. It’s as easy to think cheerfully and optimistically. It’s a choice. Think positively and make the right choices.
Wouldn't it be advantageous to face your fears and risk learning a new skill to attract more good things into your life?
Most people lack the life skills required to be self-made and self-reliant. It doesn't have to be that way for you.
If you want to face your fears and create a quality lifestyle, check this free online workshop to realise the tremendous potential that lies within yourself.
To your success