Son, I dream for you.

As I meet myself on this journey of self-discovery, I discover the essence of life. Everything I came to understand growing up has been restored to a simple truth and understanding of who we are and the power we have as individual sentient beings.

Of course on such a powerful path, as a mother, it is my son who inspires me to move forward.

It was my son who gave me the courage to follow through with transitioning into the digital economy. For many reasons, to stay home with him, to travel with him, to always be there to experience life with him. 

Raising my son in a life of limitation, time and financial never seemed appealing, so there was no question when the opportunity of building an online income stream was presented to me. I was faced with fear and doubt, but I didn't see my circumstances changing in the next 2-5 years either... So I asked myself, what exactly did I have to lose at this point? 

With everything I have learned through the education of building an online business, I catch myself worried for my son in the society he is growing up in. Last night, my thoughts hit me like a ton of bricks. It is simple, I have to lead by example. I need to know what I stand for and then stand for it. 

I committed myself to the following 11 insights below, I have written them in a form of a letter to my son. That, one day I hope he will read.

"I used to dream that you would get educated in school and do well with your grades. I hoped you would stay out of trouble and you would never be faced with hardship. I wished for you, an easy path filled with love and happiness.

Now, I see thing very differently. I have learned that without pain we don't get to truly experience pleasure. Without tears, we don't ever understand happiness.

I see now that without challenge, difficulty and discouragement we will never succeed.

It is clear to me that for fear and defeat we must be thankful, life is truly trial and error.

My dream for you;

1. You learn that you have a purpose.

Understand that you did not come here to squander away each of your days. You must serve a purpose during this life, a purpose much bigger than yourself. Know that it is okay to be unsure of your purpose, and be confident that when following your heart, listening to your intuition you will figure it out. When that time comes, you'll know. 

I dream for you to trust you have a purpose, and to be blessed with finding it sooner rather than later.

2. You learn how to truly forgive.

Forgiveness is not a service to the one who hurt you. Forgiveness is a service to yourself. I am not asking you to forget, you must learn a lesson every time, and hold your self-value high. It is important to understand that when someone hurts you it is pain within them that allows their actions.

Don't take it personally (drink poison), then expect the other to suffer. Let go, accept what is. 

I dream for you to truly experience what it means to forgive and to have the ability to move forward with love in your heart.

3. You learn that your mind/thoughts are simply a tool.

You are the consciousness behind your thoughts. Your mind is only a tool to assist you in achieving what you want. Do not identify with your mind, you are much higher than your intellect can understand or rationalize.

Watch for stories that your thoughts will convince you of. Such as a false self-image or a false gauge of how capable you are.

When we are born we are born perfect, then stories happen and we identify with them, they hold us back from stepping into our true potential. 

Your thoughts determine your reality.

I dream for you, to be aware of your thoughts and use them as a force to take you where you want.

4. You have the courage to let your fear guide you.

When fear arises, respect its presence. Fear is a guide to where you need growth. You must step towards what you fear to continually progress in life.

Remember this will be tough, but the more you take action towards what you fear the easier it gets.

I dream for you to step out of your comfort zone every single day of your life.

5. You learn that love is the only thing that really exists.

Love is simply haveing an open heart, and never closing it due to pain.

When you close your heart the pain cannot be released, instead it will smolder deep inside like trapped energy. Until it is sparked again, then you will face it over and over. When your heart is open, the pain can flow through without being caught.

When you have experiences that are not pleasant, accept the emotion you experience and then let it flow through. Don't rush this process, and don't skip this process.

I dream for you to keep your heart open, leaving no chance of trapped energy. Leaving you always open for new experience.

6. You learn that your real fulfillment will come by helping others.

We are not built to go through life alone. We are built to be here for one another. Always be aware of the people around you, and give yourself to service.

Some will be thankful, and some will not. This does not determine why you do it. What will determine why you do it, is the feeling you get when you see your service change a life, create a smile or teach a needed lesson.

I dream for you to experience the irreplaceable feeling of helping others in need with the knowing that there is no way they can ever repay you.

7. You understand that the only way to succeed is to fail your way there.

Nothing worth having will ever come easy to you, for this reason, you will be required to work hard and take many hard falls. Understand that, the only way for you to fail at achieving something you truly want is to give up.

When you see a self-made success, get educated on the challenges they had to face to get there.

I dream for you to be more interested in the journey to your goals than you are in the destination.

8. You never waste a good tragedy.

I encourage you to never allow pain to lead you astray, instead, for it to leave you with wisdom. Be thankful for the challenges that come your way, and shine light on the lesson they bring.

With every challenge comes a decision. How you react to the challenge will cause you to step back or inspire you to move forward.

When you feel life is slamming you from every angle, and feel blind to the lesson. Slow down, silence your mind and trust that on the other side you will have learned something valuable, trust that the experience will have equipped you for the future.

I dream for you to take on each challenge no matter how big or small with courage and trust.

9. You don't follow the masses.

For generations, society and culture have programmed people to follow the herd of sheep. Today, this is lead many people to confusion and life crisis. Never be afraid to take the unbeaten path, follow your intuition.

Lead with your strengths and don't put any focus or energy on your weakness's. Inspire others to do the same.

Know that you have much to offer, because there is no one like you. You offer you to the world and watch what happens.

I dream that you let your difference shine.

10. Be Grateful.

When you find yourself feeling defeated always turn to gratitude. Always focus on the things that you have to be grateful for instead of what is lacking.

Be aware, you will catch yourself in self-pity mode once in awhile. This is sure to happen. It is in times like this that you must not be blind to what is beautiful in your life. 

You can be grateful for the future as much as the present.

I dream that each day when you open your eyes you will give thanks to the things in your life that many of us take for granted.

11. Never Compare yourself

Every single path is different and always will be. You will never have the same line of experiences or lessons as anyone else.

Comparison is the thief of all joy. Never compare yourself or your accomplishments with anyone else. It is simply not realistic.

I dream that you will always be proud to see others succeed and you will always be humble when you achieve what you set out to.

Last but not least;

Remember, you are not a victim. You are not a survivor. You are meant to thrive in life.

You can have it all. As long as you get it by adding value to others lives.

Stay true to who you are, and never give up.

And my promise to you is I will always do my best to walk the talk.

Love;  Your Mom"

Tell me, do you wonder about the life your children will lead? Do you worry about this life beating them up or do you feel equipped to teach what matters and let go of what doesn't? 

I would love to hear from you, thank you for reading. 

To your success, and the future of the next generation.